
Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me)
Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions and Hurtful Acts
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Narrated by:
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Marsha Mercant
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Joe Barrett
Why do people dodge responsibility when things fall apart? Why the parade of public figures unable to own up when they screw up? Why the endless marital quarrels over who is right? Why can we see hypocrisy in others but not in ourselves? Are we all liars? Or do we really believe the stories we tell? Backed by years of research and delivered in lively, energetic prose, Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) offers a fascinating explanation of self-deception - how it works, the harm it can cause, and how we can overcome it.
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Great listen
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Ms Mercant's narration is incredibly perfunctory and unemotional, to the point that you could get something probably 90% as good having a computer voice read the text. There were even a couple of places where it's clear the authors were attempting humor, but she completely failed to change the mechanical drone of her narration, making for rather awkward sounding passages. Even in scholarly non-fiction like this, the narrator needs to understand the author's point and intention better.
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Accurate in accounts from history.
Self Improvement? Only if you reflect.
Impressive Accurate Self Improvement
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Fascinating.
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Insightful and Resourceful
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I liked this book
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This book reveals, as did the book Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman that we're humans with flaws, blind spots, biases and we fail a lot. Period. But we need to be aware of how much we self-justify our mistakes.
Here's a condensed list of what you can expect from the book:
1. We always try to justify our acts to reduce dissonance - the feeling that you have two conflict ideas inside you and that makes you feel uncomfortable;
2. We're always biased. But knowing that changes everything. It's just like driving. Drivers will always have blind spots, but the good ones are aware that we have them and take care when changing lanes to avoid hitting a car or something. Be aware of your blind spots;
3. We're biased even when we know in theory that we can be biased in that specific situation;
4. We group things into stereotypes and we tend to separate the world into us versus them (and we do this quite quickly);
5. When you're so convinced about something, it's hard to make you come out of it. It demands a lot from you. You need to build up a lot of courage to assume an error but do it anyway. You'll be respected and honored.
This book is a must-read for anyone who makes mistakes. If you don't feel like you're this kind of person, there's definitely a mistake.
A must-read.
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insightful
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