
Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me): Third Edition
Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful Acts
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Narrated by:
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Carol Tavris
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Elliot Aronson
Why do people dodge responsibility when things fall apart? Why the parade of public figures unable to own up when they screw up? Why the endless marital quarrels over who is right? Why can we see hypocrisy in others but not in ourselves? Are we all liars? Or do we really believe the stories we tell?
Renowned social psychologists Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson take a compelling look into how the brain is wired for self-justification. When we make mistakes, we must calm the cognitive dissonance that jars our feelings of self-worth. And so we create fictions that absolve us of responsibility, restoring our belief that we are smart, moral, and right - a belief that often keeps us on a course that is dumb, immoral, and wrong.
Backed by years of research and delivered in lively, energetic prose, Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) offers a fascinating explanation of self-deception - how it works, the harm it can cause, and how we can overcome it.
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However, I kept wanting to ask “why do the authors exclude themselves from falling into the same trap they claim we’re all in?” Their assumptions are often (and I mean OFTEN) presented as fact and gross oversimplifications are staggering when discussing sociological dynamics of politics. You might want to skip those parts. Taints the value of the psychological perspectives of a lifetime of work.
New chapter is laughable as of date in my opinion. They could have just said “Donald Trump struggles with NPD and we as a democracy have scrambled to manage his disorder in our opinion. At least he didn’t start a war (uh... We mean a “conflict” like another narcissist LBJ).” That could’ve explained it painlessly compared to attempting to give us pages of bloody details and then trivializing all motives of his support base and cabinet. Just unnecessary and certainly incomplete I think. But maybe I’m self-justifying my decision to NOT vote for Trump!?!
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Beyond that, it's a great book. I would have given it four stars if not for the complete collapse at the end.
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