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How to Be a Person in the World
- Ask Polly's Guide Through the Paradoxes of Modern Life
- Narrated by: Heather Havrilesky
- Length: 7 hrs and 28 mins
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Publisher's summary
A collection of original, impassioned, and inspiring letters by the author of the popular advice column Ask Polly.
Should you quit your day job to follow your dreams? How do you rein in an overbearing mother? Will you ever stop dating wishy-washy, noncommittal guys? Should you put off having a baby for your career?
Heather Havrilesky, the author of the weekly advice column Ask Polly, featured in New York magazine's The Cut, is here to guide you through the "what ifs" and "I don't knows" of modern life with the signature wisdom and tough love her readers have come to expect.
How to Be a Person in the World is a collection of never-before-published material along with a few fan favorites. Whether she's responding to cheaters or loners, lovers or haters, the depressed or the down and out, Havrilesky writes with equal parts grace, humor, and compassion to remind you that even in your darkest moments you're not alone.
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- KELLY E REYNOLDS
- 09-09-18
a must
loved the whit, writing and positive view to conquer everyones life issues. a must listen.
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- Helen Hyun
- 04-19-19
Sage advice for all ages
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- T.B.
- 08-05-16
Excellent
I loved the selection of questions chosen chosen for this book. Also love when an author narrates her own book! It was a little disappointing that this was just a compilation of her columns but I still couldn't stop listening and breezed through this book.
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- David Jones
- 09-24-22
Irreverently Insightful
I deeply enjoyed this book! Highly recommended reading for anyone feeling lost in our current time.
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- Gavin
- 09-26-16
Book of stories
Similar to watching Parks and Recreation on Netflix, you can stop/start watching whenever you want and pick back up at any time without feeling lost. That's how this book is. It's a book of people's written problems and pollys solutions and because I am an aural learner, this book was right up my alley.
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- Leah Marie
- 11-07-16
post breakup
i listened to it after going through a break up. i found it very helpful
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- Chris
- 08-07-18
Easy listen with hard-hitting advice
At first, I thought the tone was a bit too buoyant for the subject matter but quickly came to appreciate it. The Q&A format worked well because of the curated selection of questions and gradual unfolding of the author's own story in the answers.
The questions cover a range of topics that are somehow both distinct and also universally relatable. Although some topics were heavy, the author's wit and insightfulness made the content fun to listen to.
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- Ja
- 01-07-19
so juicy!
so juicy but extremely rewarding, practical and helpful. it was bittersweet to finish this book..
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- Kristine
- 07-16-16
Really great listen
I wasn't familiar with Ask Polley but really enjoyed Tiny Beautiful Things so thought this might be good... It was great! Her advice is not only salient, but beautiful and kind. Some other reviews talk about her "straight up no BS" style and while it is true that she cuts right to the core of any issue (and gives a butt kick where necessary) she is gentle and never aggressive (absolutely no gimmick involved in her 'tough love'). I've recommended to a few friends and I hope they listen bc I can't wait to talk to someone about this book!
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- Ben
- 09-15-17
maybe this just isn't my genre & I'm too harsh
Maybe this just isn't my genre & I'm being too harsh, but I did not enjoy this. I felt like the author was just pushing an agenda more than giving sound advice. I hope others enjoy it!
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