
Make Your Move
The New Science of Dating and Why Women Are in Charge
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Michael Butler Murray
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Jon Birger
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Society is changing, which means it's time for dating to evolve. Millennial and Gen Z women are more than capable of seeking out what - and who - they want. They're standouts in the classroom and champions on the playing fields. They're leaders in the workplace and trailblazers in city halls, state houses, and Congress. So why would we tell a generation of badass women that they're not allowed to be bold when it comes to finding love? Why should they have to sit back and wait (and wait and wait) for men to find them?
In Make Your Move: The New Science of Dating and Why Women Are in Charge, Jon Birger, author of Date-onomics, offers women bold new strategies for finding the one. Backed by research showing that women can win at romance by making the first move with the men of their choice, Birger explains why: It's better to choose than to be chosen; the "play hard to get" method is not only outdated but grounded in bad science; the first move does not have to be a big move; it's time to log off of dating apps and date men you actually know; the workplace can be a terrific place to meet a long-term romantic partner...and more!
Make Your Move is an honest, solution-based guide to finding love that lasts. If you're tired of playing by old rules, look no further: Make your move and win.
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- KD
- 05-19-21
Would recommend to friends- New perspective
I would recommend this to my single friends.
Some very compelling results/ facts on current studies. A refreshing perspective.
Confronts stigmas and "old fashioned" ways of navigating the current relationship climate.
This booked elaborated on the realities of online dating, unrealistic expectations, the "METOO" movement, female/ male perspective, real stories of real people, and more.
At times, it made me feel a inspired to try an alternative approach and "Seize the day!" as they say.
I will listen to this audio book again to pick up on anything I might have missed the first time.
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- Chao
- 08-25-22
Excellent book for women
I never had any education about how to find a perfect man. All my knowledge is about working skills. Lol... In school or family wouldn't tell you how to find the right guy. So I should read some books about it. My mom always tells me, " knowledge can change your destiny." You can have a great life later knowing how to find the right men. Can that knowledge change your destiny? Most women seek long-term relationships because we can not waste our valuable time. For a lot of women, if you want to have kids in the future, dating is so serious to you because you are looking for a husband and a father, not just dating a man or any man. We are looking for a responsible man who can have a family and be a quality father for your kids. So dating is so crucial for all of us because we all deserve to be happy! Recommend this book to you!
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- Andrew J Starr
- 02-04-21
A Good Read For The Dating Fatigued
The way this book gathered information and presented it was interesting and compelling. It was a relief to hear someone pontificate on the near uselessness of dating apps. Here I was thinking that I was the only one apparently wasting my time swiping and getting nowhere. Even though this book was directed more towards women, as a male I still found it useful. If your frustrated with modern dating then this book just might make you feel a little more at ease.
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- Anonymous User
- 08-17-24
Only guy who read this probably
Didn’t like the “ flamboyant “ voice actor who read this. Wasn’t actually too bad of a read. EXCEPT. What self-help book for women doesn’t even offer advice on how to become a better women? Literally just different ways and stories to ask men out and work on your self confidence ( you go girl ). Men have to work hard to better themselves but women are just already great I guess. Shocked the author had the stones to say men liked younger women in this book tho considering he catered to women the entire time. Should have done more research on what men liked instead of plugging his website 500 times after each chapter. Truth is men and women just don’t need each other anymore. I cook, clean do my own laundry. Basically everything in my house. So if I can do everything myself that only leaves women useful for 1 thing to guys. And there’s plenty of women who give it up for free. Why buy the cow when the milk is free.
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- Peter Graham Hyland
- 11-25-22
Not made for men to read.
Only caters to women by only proposing solutions to women and not men. Also says that women who are college educated have a harder time dating which is bullshit to be honest. Complete bullshit. Lmao!
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