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Say This, Not That

A Foolproof Guide to Effective Interpersonal Communication

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Say This, Not That

By: Carl Alasko
Narrated by: Tim Andres Pabon
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This simple, straightforward guide to effective communication is for anyone who has ever wanted to “eat their words.”

Do you ever feel that your words produce the exact opposite effect of what you were hoping for - escalating tensions rather than solving problems? Author of Emotional Bullshit Carl Alasko has found that with the right guidance, anyone can learn effective communication skills. In Say This, Not That, Alasko presents readers with simple instructions for what to say...and what not to say. Accompanying each pair of statements is a brief discussion of what makes one so negative and destructive, and the other inviting of the kind of discussion needed. This book is the ultimate resource for anyone who longs to consistently say the right thing at the right time.

©2014 Carl Alasko Ph. D. (P)2014 Gildan Media LLC Communication & Social Skills Conflict Resolution Personal Development Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships

Critic reviews

"This straightforward, easy-to-use guide will help you find the right words to say in the trickiest of situations—whether you're on a first date, navigating a conflict with a friend, or feeling frustrated at work." (Laurie Puhn, J.D., author of Fight Less, Love More)
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An absolute must read for learning how to better communicate and be more efficient at it. If we learned these practices early - high school , the world as a whole would be much different

Should be taught in school

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In short - I would have to say This is be one of my most valuable books in my library

Very valuable

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great content, somewhat boring narrator
I'll be on the lookout for more information
Please share with others!

great tips for everyone

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Great audio book to help foster your interpersonal communication and build new people person skills.

great audio book

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Great situational examples. Easy to listen to. I liked the chapters relating to relationships, work.

Relevant to everyday life.<br />

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The narration sounded robotic, but was fine to listen to. I don't feel that I learned much. I was hoping to learn more about improving communication in difficult conversations. Most examples of choices for what to say vs what not to say were too obvious.

Robotic narration with ok content

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This book wasn’t for you, but who do you think might enjoy it more?

Someone in middle school perhaps.

Has Say This, Not That turned you off from other books in this genre?

No

How could the performance have been better?

Better lessons

You didn’t love this book... but did it have any redeeming qualities?

Narrator was fine. The book was meager and the lessons are really best for a young adult or someone with Aspergers.

Any additional comments?

No

Way too basic and rudimentary

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I’ll rather have it in my hands then listen to it , it was confusing to keep up with on the go

Ughhh

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