
The Verbally Abusive Man, Can He Change?
A Woman's Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go
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Narrated by:
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Laural Merlington
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By:
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Patricia Evans
About this listen
In this groundbreaking follow-up to her best-selling books The Verbally Abusive Relationship and Controlling People, Patricia Evans goes beyond identifying verbally abusive behaviors to prescribing a course of action for both victim and abuser. Coupling stories of abused women and abusive men from her own case studies, Evans gives you the tools you need to transform your relationship. Most important, she assures you that such a transformation is possible—given the right circumstances. Evans also helps you determine if your abuser really has changed—or if he’s merely creating the illusion of change. And if he hasn’t changed, Evans helps you decide whether it’s time to leave the relationship—and what to do when it is.
Combining practical applications and the latest clinical research with her trademark support and assurance, Evans shows you how to empower yourself, improve your relationship, and change your life for the better.
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He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You've asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men---and to change your life. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men shows you how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship.
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I needed this.
- By james p weiss on 09-07-17
By: Lundy Bancroft
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Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay
- A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship
- By: Mira Kirshenbaum
- Narrated by: Adriane McNeely
- Length: 8 hrs and 33 mins
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To make up or break up? Whether you’re just getting serious or have a long-term commitment, no other question causes so much heartache and self-doubt. Many other books tell you how to fix your relationship. This groundbreaking bestseller is the first one to help you choose whether you should try—or you need to go.
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Gives you much to think about
- By Nadia on 06-07-10
By: Mira Kirshenbaum
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Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare
- How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself
- By: Shahida Arabi
- Narrated by: Julie McKay
- Length: 19 hrs and 53 mins
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Although clinical research has been conducted on narcissism as a disorder, less is known about its effects on victims who are in toxic relationships with partners with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Individuals with this disorder engage in chronic devaluation and manipulation of their partners, a psychological and emotional phenomenon known as "narcissistic abuse". Unfortunately, the full extent of what narcissistic abuse entails is not taught in any psychology class or diagnostic manual.
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Finally
- By zero on 12-08-16
By: Shahida Arabi
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The Emotionally Destructive Marriage
- How to Find Your Voice and Reclaim Your Hope
- By: Leslie Vernick
- Narrated by: Leslie Vernick
- Length: 6 hrs and 13 mins
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You can't put it into words, but something is happening to you. Your stomach churns, your heart aches, and the tension in your marriage is making you feel weary and a little crazy. The constant criticism, disrespect, cruelty, deceit, and gross indifference are eroding your confidence and breaking your spirit. For any woman caught in an emotionally destructive marriage, Leslie Vernick offers a personalized path forward.
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I wish this book had been written 10 years ago
- By D. C. Hoult on 09-08-14
By: Leslie Vernick
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Out of the Fog
- Moving from Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse
- By: Dana Morningstar
- Narrated by: Dana Morningstar
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The FOG is an acronym that stands for "Fear, Obligation, and Guilt". These three emotions are often how narcissists, sociopaths, and other types of emotional manipulators go about controlling others.
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THE best book I’ve ever read on the subject
- By Alexandria Filipowski on 10-23-19
By: Dana Morningstar
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The Narcissist's Playbook
- How to Identify, Disarm, and Protect Yourself from Narcissists, Sociopaths, Psychopaths, and Other Types of Manipulative and Abusive People
- By: Dana Morningstar
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Do you have a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath in your life, or think that you might? Do you continually feel anxious around someone in your life, but can’t pinpoint why?...Perhaps you know you are being manipulated or abused, but don’t know how to make it stop. The Narcissist’s Playbook can help. You can take back your life.
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powerful
- By All Dolled Up on 01-17-20
By: Dana Morningstar
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The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist
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- By: Debbie Mirza
- Narrated by: Debbie Mirza
- Length: 6 hrs and 42 mins
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The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse is the most comprehensive and helpful audiobook on the topic of covert narcissism. This type of narcissism is one of the most damaging forms because the abuse is so hidden and so insidious. You can be in a relationship that can last for decades and not realize you are being psychologically and emotionally controlled, manipulated, and abused.
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This book CHANGED MY LIFE!
- By Mojo on 12-19-18
By: Debbie Mirza
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When Loving Him Is Hurting You
- Hope and Help for Women Dealing with Narcissism and Emotional Abuse
- By: Dr. David Hawkins
- Narrated by: Jim Denison
- Length: 8 hrs and 5 mins
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You fell in love with him. But over time you've come to realize he's in love with himself - and you feel trapped. His needs, his problems, and his plans always seem to take precedence over yours. Dr. David Hawkins, director of the Marriage Recovery Center, offers a guide to help you identify signs of narcissism, understand how your loved one's issues are affecting you, and prepare a biblical game plan for freeing yourself to live courageously in light of God's love.
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The book I so desperately needed to read
- By Julia on 05-26-18
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Healing from Hidden Abuse
- A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse
- By: Shannon Thomas LCSW
- Narrated by: Wendy Tremont King
- Length: 6 hrs and 26 mins
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Within every community, toxic people can be found hiding in families, couples, companies, and places of worship. The cryptic nature of psychological abuse involves repetitious mind games played by one individual or a group of people. Psychological abuse leaves no bruises. There are no broken bones. There are no holes in the walls. The bruises, brokenness, and holes are held tightly within the target of the abuse.
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Proceed with caution
- By Kamel on 10-17-18
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Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love, Revised Edition
- Relationship Repair in a Flash
- By: Nancy Dreyfus PsyD
- Narrated by: Gabra Zackman
- Length: 5 hrs and 7 mins
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Talk to Me like I'm Someone You Love is a brilliant interactive relationship tool that can help couples stop arguing and begin healing. This revised edition features two new sections - one on making love and another on deepening trust - containing more than 25 new "flash cards for real life", statements that hold the power to express what we wish we could say to the person we love but for which we can't find either the right words or the right tone in which to say them.
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Is there a companion PDF with the flashcards one could print?
- By Brandy Fagan on 09-13-22
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- Barbara M.
- 08-03-17
We knew the answer all along
The author attempts to answer the question each of us have asked ourselves. Perhaps it works for a rare insightful men. We knew all along they are not going to change. I found the audiobook worth listening to, anyway, a welcome change from the usual advice to run to a shelter. Good luck, ladies.
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- Amazon Customer
- 05-12-21
I strongly recommend this
Context: I’ve been a relationship for 9+ years. I paired this with the other audio book, The Verbally Abusive Relationship.
I liked the performance. The narrator does a good job emphasizing the point. The story/content is valuable. It was able to explain and help me plan/proceed with how I wanted to handle my verbally abusive relationship. We are going to therapy together, while that may not be the end all be all, my partner is really doing this because he WANTS to for himself. I followed the steps to the best of my ability from the book, and it really determined our place in the relationship. 10/10 I would definitely recommend this to someone who feels as though they are not heard in the relationship.
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- Andrea E. Bacchi
- 07-08-23
Excellent book. Eye-opening.
The book is well written and helped me understand things much more. The explanations and examples are incredibly helpful.
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- Nadine Fish
- 06-24-14
Worst narrater ever!
What didn’t you like about Laural Merlington’s performance?
She sounded like a tape recorder does when it is put on the slow motion function; it was almost painful at times to listen to her.
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- Dr. Sabatier
- 11-04-18
amazing
highly recommend
change is essential
an insight ful perspective to the thinking and behaviors of venally abusive
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- Kayleigh Mack
- 12-06-22
Necessary for women and men alike
This book clearly defines verbal abuse and highlights a means of either correcting the behavior in a relationship or emboldens women to leave when hope is truly lost.
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- LLLTyler
- 04-16-18
Life Saving
This is my first time reading The Verbally Abusive Man.
I also just finished “Controlling People” for second time in the last 10 years. First time was recommended by my marriage counselor. I knew without a douby my husband was controlling. But; by the time I was done with that book, I also realized I had controlling behaviors as well. Unexpectedly, it also taught me how I was defining my daughter and controlling her as well. A lot of my terminology in day to day parenting and conversations changed. I stopped telling my daughter things like “you’re not hungry, your body is just tired, and you need to go back to bed and get sleep”.
I changed it to, “I understand. You could very well be hungry. Usually, when we need to eat it’s because we need more calories for energy. You just had dinner 2 hours ago, and it’s time for bed. Sometimes the body confuses being tired with being hungry. When we need to eat our body releases a hormone called ghrelin that makes us think “I’m hungry”. And, when we’re overly tired, or stressed, the same hunger-sparking hormones appear and gives us hunger pangs...” Then, after a couple questions and a glass of water, or maybe even a compromise like a stick of celery, she was off to bed. I didn’t realize the importance of these things until reading this book. Her book isn’t about parenting necessarily. But, rather it outlines a lot of how the result of parental abuse can lead to kids being abusive and controlling adults. In the end, after reading this book, my husband became physically abusive and that led to divorce. I’m now remarried and don’t want to repeat history. After to my new husband (same text book pattern) he beccame verbally abusive. This time, it was a lot easier to see and understand as a result of my past.
This book “The Verbally Abusive Man” gave me tools on how to respond and handle it, and “The Agreement”. My husband and I now live seperatly while working on our marriage, as he continues to go to counseling to resolve his childhood hurts and communication styles. Meanwhile, my daughter and I are healing and recovering from the trauma and attend counseling as work to towards bringing our family back together again. It hasn’t been easy ... but I think it’ll be worth it. THANK YOU PATRICIA EVANS for saving my life. and my spirit.
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- Nichole Mcintosh
- 06-27-20
Gives you an Action Plan
It was a comprehensive discussion on verbal abuse. Patricia describes how historically women have been told who they are and what they think & feel by men. It provides real-life examples of what statements are abusive. Confessions from partners who've experienced the abuse and the abusers themselves. She walks through a step-by-step plan to help make your decision to stay or end the relationship. Calling out that change is essential.
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- Juanita
- 12-11-16
must read.
true insight and explained well. thanks. sadly not much hope of change, because they need to recognize the behavior.
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- Mr. Hauck
- 08-10-17
Mandatory Reading
I wish I would have read this 15 years ago. If you are a man, and want to be a real man, read this book. now.
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