
You Are Your Own
A Reckoning with the Religious Trauma of Evangelical Christianity
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Jamie Lee Finch
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Jamie Lee Finch
About this listen
Rooted in her experiences growing up in an evangelical Christian family, Jamie Lee Finch’s You Are Your Own offers an overview of evangelicalism and the painful confusion and anxiety experienced under its demands.
Finch explores the mechanisms of trauma and how fundamentalist denominations match the patterns connected with PTSD. She elaborates on the doubt, guilt, fear, and grief that haunt those leaving the evangelical faith and offers an approach to help them recover healthy self-worth and resilience.
A socio-historical autobiographical analysis of evangelical Christianity's religious trauma, You Are Your Own emerges from Finch's reconnaissance on her own life - her journals, stories, trauma - and offers advocacy for everyone harmed by fundamentalist faith.
Jamie Lee Finch is a sexuality and embodiment coach, intuitive healer, self-conversation facilitator, sex witch, and poet. You can learn about Jamie’s work at JamieLeeFinch.com
©2019 Jamie Lee Finch (P)2019 Jamie Lee FinchListeners also enjoyed...
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Fantastic thought provoking book
- By busymom on 04-22-21
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Exvangelical and Beyond
- How American Christianity Went Radical and the Movement That's Fighting Back
- By: Blake Chastain
- Narrated by: Blake Chastain
- Length: 7 hrs and 9 mins
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With the rise of Trumpism, the American evangelical movement has more political influence than ever—yet at the same time, people are leaving Christianity in record numbers. Why are so many people walking away from the right-wing religion they were raised in, and what are they doing to overcome the past? Writer and podcaster Blake Chastain is uniquely positioned to understand this phenomenon. Raised evangelical, he went to a Christian college intending to become a pastor—until he found himself unable to reconcile his faith with the prejudice and even abuse he saw being done in God’s name.
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Wondering why people are deconstructing? Read this
- By Warren Collier on 10-04-24
By: Blake Chastain
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Disobedient Women
- How a Small Group of Faithful Women Exposed Abuse, Brought Down Powerful Pastors, and Ignited an Evangelical Reckoning
- By: Sarah Stankorb
- Narrated by: Suehyla Young
- Length: 8 hrs and 31 mins
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In this national bestseller, journalist Sarah Stankorb outlines how access to the internet—its networks, freedom of expression, and resources for deeply researching and reporting on powerful church figures—allowed women to begin dismantling the false authority of evangelical communities that had long demanded their submission.
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To many generalizations without balance
- By Lisa N. on 05-28-24
By: Sarah Stankorb
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Baptistland
- A Memoir of Abuse, Betrayal, and Transformation
- By: Christa Brown
- Narrated by: Soren McKay
- Length: 12 hrs and 1 min
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When Christa Brown first spoke out about the sexual abuse she endured in her Texas childhood church, she never imagined it would expose the ethical chasm at the core of the Southern Baptist Convention: male religious leaders so focused on institutional protection that they sacrifice the safety of children. A book about speaking out and speaking up, Baptistland weaves together Christa’s revealing story of hope amid Southern patriarchy and religious fundamentalism.
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It was very boring.
- By Randall Sink on 07-24-24
By: Christa Brown
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Out of Focus
- My Story of Sexuality, Shame, and Toxic Evangelicalism
- By: Amber Cantorna-Wylde
- Narrated by: Amber Cantorna-Wylde
- Length: 5 hrs and 55 mins
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When a mass shooter killed five people in an LGBTQ nightclub in Colorado Springs, grieving people graffitied James Dobson's Focus on the Family headquarters with the words "Their blood is on your hands." Such an accusation comes as no surprise to Amber Cantorna-Wylde, whose father is a Focus on the Family executive and cast Amber out of her family when she came out in 2012.
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Deeply Insightful
- By randal b. on 09-13-24
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A Well-Trained Wife
- My Escape from Christian Patriarchy
- By: Tia Levings
- Narrated by: Tia Levings
- Length: 10 hrs and 54 mins
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Recruited into the fundamentalist Quiverfull movement as a young wife, Tia Levings learned that being a good Christian meant following a list of additional life principles—a series of secret, special rules to obey. Being a godly and submissive wife in Christian Patriarchy included strict discipline, isolation, and an alternative lifestyle that appeared wholesome to outsiders. Women were to be silent, “keepers of the home.” A Well-Trained Wife is an unforgettable memoir about a woman's race to save herself and her family and details the ways that extreme views can manifest in a marriage.
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A review from a chronic non-reviewer
- By T. L. P. on 08-11-24
By: Tia Levings
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Rift
- A Memoir of Breaking Away from Christian Patriarchy
- By: Cait West
- Narrated by: Cait West
- Length: 8 hrs and 3 mins
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Raised in the Christian patriarchy movement, Cait West was homeschooled and could only wear clothes her father deemed modest. She was five years old the first time she was told her swimsuit was too revealing, to go change. There would be no college in her future, no career. She was a stay-at-home daughter and would move out only when her father allowed her to become a wife. She was trained to serve men, and her life would never be her own.
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Compelling narrative and beautifully written
- By Maria Hauskins on 05-05-24
By: Cait West
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- Ken-r
- 11-26-19
Telling account
This is a telling account of how one girls life was dramatically impacted by conservative fundamentalist doctrine. While I don't agree with her on all counts, there was much of her story I could relate to.
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- rubberband1976
- 09-29-20
Wonderfully validating!
I finally have a name and validation for my experience. Thank you. I am so grateful :)
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- Jamie
- 08-25-20
Life changing for me!
I could write a book about everything I want to talk about in this book. If you think you have had religious trauma this is your book! She is spot on! Everyone needs to read this book!
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- Nanette Fitch
- 01-29-24
I relate so much
This book gave an honest look at the rubble under purity culture… our bodies. Physical health is linked to our mental/emotional/spiritual health. The book did a great job at explaining the effects of religious trauma without being graphic or activating for my PTSD girlies.
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- Kaitlin E.
- 04-06-20
The Perfect Intro to Deconstruction from Evangelicalism
This book has been so eye opening. It’s helped explain to me the 20+ years of physical pain and migraines I’ve dealt with. It’s given a reason for the tension and shame I’ve carried in my body all my life. And it’s given me a starting point for my deconstruction journey out of the faith system I was raised in. Thank you, thank you. I can’t wait for your next book. ♥️
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- Holly
- 08-27-21
Great overview and summary of my life and so many others
This book hit on SO much of my childhood and subsequent messed-up adulthood. I’m only just beginning to uncover all the damage done in my religious life at 46 and hope this book helps others in our situation begin to heal.
For those for whom this book doesn’t resonate, know that within this topic are soooo many differently nuanced and blatant versions of such experiences, varying sometimes greatly based on which church/school you attend, how old you are, what you were allowed to do growing up, etc. But the gist of it is universal and timeless… Well-intended or not, manmade interpretations of a text and/or a belief can tragically and deeply wound a young child who will go on to have a less than ideal or healthy/happy life if they never have a chance to unlearn and rid themselves of all the garbage dumped on them for years and years.
I AM my own! Thank you, Jamie, for your part in helping me realize that!
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- Mariah Hunter
- 10-14-22
This book has changed my life
I started my deconstruction about 5yrs ago, i just didn't fully understand what i was going through or doing thenm
This past year i have started becoming more & more aware of my experiences growing up in an abusive home & how it is still affecting me today. Thank you for the personal perspective of this book, it really showed me i am not alone.
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- Tena
- 12-12-19
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Excellent look into evangelicalism and the trauma that it has bestowed on several generations but it's now being recognized as a departure from the Divine
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- Julie Martinez
- 02-02-21
Wonderful, everything I needed
I picked up this audio book to listen to while I'm working. almost everything she went through was a direct mirror of my life, minus the abusive mother. I love the looks into the psychology behind how these things affect us. I never thought there was a word for what I was experiencing and right here it is. Thank you!
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- Kindle Customer
- 04-17-24
a wonderful book!!
this book tells the truth with so much clarity, and research that goes deeper into the topics of purity culture and white evangelism. it was very powerful for me to read, and I'm so grateful. I feel so heard.
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