
Building Self-Esteem
How Learning from Shame Helps Us to Grow
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Joseph Burgo PhD
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Challenging widely accepted views within the self-esteem movement, author Joseph Burgo argues that self-esteem does not thrive in the soil of nonstop praise and encouragement, but rather depends upon setting and meeting goals, living up to the expectations we hold for ourselves, and finally sharing our joy in achievement with the people who matter most to us. Along the way, listening to and learning from our encounters with shame will go further than affirmations and positive self-talk in helping us to build authentic self-esteem.
Richly illustrated with clinical stories from Burgo's 35 years in private practice, this self-help book also describes the myriad ways that unacknowledged shame often hides behind a broad spectrum of mental disorders including social anxiety, narcissism, addiction, and masochism.
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