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I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck

An Everyman’s Guide to a Meaningful Life

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I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck

By: John Kim
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The Angry Therapist who has helped thousands of men find more happiness in their relationships and more purpose in their lives now shares his insights with everyone in this powerful guide - self-help in a shot glass - covering essential topics, from vulnerability and posturing to workouts and women.

Deep in post-divorce soul-searching, John Kim came to an astonishing realization: He was a miserable f--k who might just be to blame for the problems in his life. Armed with this new insight, he began The Angry Therapist blog - an admission that, while he was a licensed therapist and life coach, he was no better than the people who sought his advice. In his first post, “My F--king Feelings”, he wrote about the struggles and shortcomings that had led him to this point. As his work caught on, catapulting him into the role of unlikely and unconventional guide for thousands of people all over the world, Kim evolved from behaving like a boy to living like a man - and showed his clients how to do so as well.

In I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck, Kim delivers the dos and don’ts for stepping up and into manhood, which he defines by transparency and strength of character, not six-pack abs or a corner office. With his signature no-nonsense approach that will make you laugh and think, Kim takes you on a rugged, rough-and-tumble road trip of self-exploration and discovery, sharing his wisdom and insights, such as why:

  • Being nice is for boys and being kind is for men
  • Scheduling man dates could make you a better friend, lover, and human being
  • Peeing in the shower is a sign of a larger problem
  • Arguing, judging, and answering “I dunno” are keeping you from a healthy relationship, a great career, and a happy life

We are not born men. We are born boys. The transition from misery to meaning is an internal process that requires work: reflection, pain, courage, and sometimes, a rebirth. Kim knows because he’s been there. The truth is, men weren’t meant to just pay bills and die. With this audiobook as your guide, you will love hard, walk tall, and find a life filled with purpose and passion.

©2019 John Kim (P)2019 HarperCollins Publishers
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"I don’t think I’d describe myself as ever having been a miserable f*ck, but I was a teenager until around the age of 26. I also used to work in a really bad high school, and I’ve witnessed (and displayed) firsthand the epidemic deficit of emotional intelligence on the male end of the spectrum. I didn’t really come to terms with it either before listening to Brené Brown’s The Power of Vulnerability a few years ago, and that’s why I’m excited about I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck. It shows that the issue is gaining momentum, with the attention and mentorship it deserves. John Kim’s approach to the topic is definitely "dude-lier" than Brené Brown’s—his narration is gruff and serious, but he knows how to crack a joke—and I think that will appeal to some of the people who would benefit from this book the most."
Michael D., Audible Editor

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I did not start reading this book with anything in mind. I am busy and commute frequently so I acquired the audiobook to listen to on the road. I found myself delving into the story by laughing along to someone straight forward facts and knowledge. Women and men alike can read this book and enjoy.

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This was my first book on audible so I didn’t know what to expect and I was hoping I made the right choice for me and that I would be actively paying attention all the way through. This was a FANTASTIC listen , I could relate to many of the things and stories he was talking about. It helped me to be a better me , get a new perspective on things , and grow up a bit. I would recommend this to anyone whose thinking about reading it or seems like they need to.

My first book on audible

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This guy. This book. F'n amazing! Everything he says makes absolute since. A necessary compilation of wisdom for men. 👏

No longer F*cking miserable

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The amount of nuggets of information is amazing. Gives me things to ponder for myself as well for my fatherless sons.

I hope to one day to gift this book to them. I believe men AND women can learn a lot from this.

Awe inspiring

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I’m a fairly novice “book reader.” But this book has a ton of good good points, a lot of good stories to back it, and the author presents them very well. There’s a lot of things that seem like common sense. However I imagine it isn’t as common as one might expect. Would recommend!

Good book, good listen, good story

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Excellent book written for guys to help get on the best track for success in self, relationships and professional life. Don't pass this one by.

Life changing.

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Everyone should read this book. We’ve all been miserable f*cks at one point in our lives. Not just for men either, and gave me a much different perspective on men and being divorced and currently single at 41 years old. I will listen again and again. Thinking of you and your father John. I’m so sorry for your loss.

Life changing

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how to be honest with yourself in order to rebuild your life and start living again

vulnerability

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John Kim, this book should have a broader title because the majority of the guide is how to be a good person, not just man. I will apply a lot of this to my own life, and will no longer settle for some of the boys I have dated in the past. If anyone is unsure of what women are looking for, they can learn everything in about five hours, listening to this book.
Thank you for sharing your story and creating a guide that is so user friendly. I will likely be buying a paper copy as well, to read, reference, share, and write all over!

Not just for men.

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Wonderful story and thought-provoking to say the least. Bought this on a whim because I have struggled with much of the same things the author has and have been working hard at becoming a better man, person and father. I related to the title. Thank you John Kim!

Compelling and helpful

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