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  • It Wasn't Your Fault

  • Freeing Yourself From the Shame of Childhood Abuse with the Power of Self-Compassion
  • By: Beverly Engel
  • Narrated by: Kate Rudd
  • Length: 8 hrs and 47 mins
  • 4.6 out of 5 stars (229 ratings)

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It Wasn't Your Fault

By: Beverly Engel
Narrated by: Kate Rudd
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Shame is one of the most destructive of human emotions. If you suffered childhood physical or sexual abuse, you may experience such intense feelings of shame that it almost seems to define you as a person. In order to begin healing, it's important for you to know that it wasn't your fault.

In this gentle guide, therapist and childhood abuse expert Beverly Engel presents a mindfulness and compassion-based therapeutic approach to help you overcome the debilitating shame that keeps you tied to the past. By following the step-by-step exercises in this audiobook, you'll gain a greater understanding of the root cause of your shame. And by cultivating compassion toward yourself, you will begin to heal and move past your painful experiences.

Recent studies show that trauma survivors, particularly those with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) resulting from abuse, can greatly benefit from incorporating elements of self-compassion into their treatment. Furthermore, the practice of self-compassion has been shown to decrease PTSD symptoms, including, self-criticism, thought suppression, and rumination.

This audiobook is based on the author's powerful and effective Compassion Cure program. With this audiobook, you will develop the skills needed to finally put a stop to the crippling self-blame that keeps you from moving on and being happy. You'll learn to focus on your strengths, your courage, and your extraordinary ability to survive. Most of all, you'll learn to replace shame with its counter emotion - pride.

©2015 Beverly Engel (P)2014 Brilliance Audio, all rights reserved.
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VERY HELPFUL

Every word of this book resonated with me…..Listened to it twice back to back…

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Good information

If you lived through parental abuse or rejection or know someone who has, this book has allot of answers to the perplexing problems this type of situation can cause. It is also a good resource if you have had the backlash of someone who has lived through it and it now effects you.

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Great book!

The sample hooked me and I'm so glad I brought this book. It helped me break a bad abusive 3 year relationship.

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One of the best for childhood ptsd

Along with the books by Pete Walker this has been a godsend in helping to heal my cptsd.

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Thank you for helping us

You're doing such good work and have already helped my wife and me immensely. We can't thank you enough.

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Will relisten to this one regularly

If you could sum up It Wasn't Your Fault in three words, what would they be?

Hopeful, compassionate, understanding

What was one of the most memorable moments of It Wasn't Your Fault?

Just, whenever you can relate to it, the way she just almost seems to be like this is you isnt it, you do this, dont you? But you know, its okay, here is why and here's what we do next. Look at from this angle and this point of view.

What about Kate Rudd’s performance did you like?

Perfect, she was gentle and sweet. Made the books compassion come out. It was great

What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

All of it, I have to go through it again though, it's a lot to take in even though I listened to it for more than a week. I found myself having to take breaks and listen to other things. Because she hits so close to home and is so soft and gentle about it, I found myself emotionally raw a few times. Just had to take this one slow. I will listen many times to this one. For the help its given and her words, she herself being a survivor, really hit deep.

Any additional comments?

If you have any abuse in your life, this is a great book to read to find a deeper understanding and more love for yourself.

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thank you wish this was available 30 years ago.

I really wish this had been available 30 yrs ago instead of having to struggle to find my path do similar to this

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Completely Enlightening

For 30 years, I’ve neglected figuring out why I have been the way I have. This book has open my eyes, mind, heart, and soul. Thank you, Beverly, for your wisdom, knowledge and compassion.

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Excellent book!

I found this book be very insightful and useful. I highly recommend it to everyone who suffered from or is suffering from abuse.

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Wow

So much abuse I endured and never dealt with it. I identified with lots of the cases. Buy it!

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