
Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships
A Workshop on Healing the Wound of the Heart
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Stephen Graybill
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John Welwood
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While most of us have moments of loving freely and openly, it is often hard to sustain this where it matters most - in our intimate relationships. Why, if love is so great and powerful, are human relationships so challenging and difficult? If love is the source of happiness and joy, why is it so hard to open to it fully and let it govern our lives? In this audiobook, John Welwood addresses these questions and shows us how to overcome the most fundamental obstacle that keeps us from experiencing love's full flowering in our lives.
Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships begins by showing how all our relational problems arise out of a universal, core wounding around love that affects not only our personal relationships but the quality of life in our world as a whole. This wounding shows up as a pervasive mood of unlove - a deep sense that we are not intrinsically lovable just as we are. And this shuts down our capacity to trust, so that even though we may hunger for love, we have difficulty opening to it and letting it circulate freely through us.
This audiobook takes the listener on a powerful journey of healing and transformation that involves learning to embrace our humanness and appreciate the imperfections of our relationships as trail-markers along the path to great love. It sets forth a process for releasing deep-seated grievances we hold against others for not loving us better and against ourselves for not being better loved. And it shows how our longing to be loved can magnetize the great love that will free us from looking to others to find ourselves.
Written with penetrating realism and a fresh, lyrical style that honors the subtlety and richness of our relationship to love itself, this revolutionary book offers profound and practical guidance for healing our lives as well as our embattled world.
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- marlo Pedroso
- 05-15-23
Solid
The title says it all. Welwood gives the gift of knowing real love from its imitations.
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- Maurice .Boyd
- 03-21-20
very interesting book it answered a lot question
Answered a lot of questions I had I strongly recommend this book love it this that book
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- Ruzette Nicolas
- 04-01-23
Changed my view on love
I really appreciated the content of this book. It broadened my view on love. The way it is written is deep, mystical and anchored into daily life top.
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- Robert William
- 06-25-21
Love Is The Answer
Wonderful teaching. Drawing on the ancient wisdom that cuts across all religious traditions as well as offering modern interpretations, Dr Welwood articulates spiritual practice clearly and from a place of authenticity.
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- 11-10-24
Somewhat long winded and unoriginal
Some gems related to psychological insights, but Buddhist insights banal and simplistic. Narration is wooden.
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- 05-26-19
Non specific
Over generalization without exploring deeper specific issues. I gave it a try but became bored with each chapter
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