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The Dance of Connection

By: Harriet Lerner
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In her most affirming and life-changing book yet, Dr. Harriet Lerner teaches us how to restore love and connection with the people who matter the most. In The Dance of Connection we learn what to say (and not say) when:

  • We need an apology, and the person who has harmed us won't apologize or be accountable
  • We don't know how to take a conversation to the next level when we feel desperate
  • We feel worn down by the other person's criticism, negativity, or irresponsible behavior
  • We have been rejected or cut off, and the other person won't show up for the conversation
  • We are struggling with staying or leaving, and we don't know our "bottom line"
  • We are convinced that we've tried everything, and nothing changes

Filled with compelling personal stories and case examples, Lerner outlines bold new "voice lessons" that show us how to speak with honor and personal integrity, even when the other person behaves badly.

Whether we're dealing with a partner, parent, sister, or best friend, The Dance of Connection teaches us how to navigate our most important relationships with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction.

©1999 Harriet Lerner (P)2001 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.
Emotions Personal Development Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Inspiring

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Excellent Content! Listen to it 1.25x faster.

What made the experience of listening to The Dance of Connection the most enjoyable?

The book is practical and insightful, with a lot of excellent examples.

What other book might you compare The Dance of Connection to and why?

The dance of anger

Which character – as performed by Harriet Lerner – was your favorite?

All of them. As she mentioned, do not skip any examples. Even you don't have kids, don't skip the example of mother and her child. The same communication principle will help you in other circumstances.

If you were to make a film of this book, what would the tag line be?

Let other people worry about their things.

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I found this book after reading the dance of anger. I was having a lot of relationship issues - with my husband, my in-laws, and my co-workers. This book has provided quite a few excellent examples. I listened to it again and again and have started to apply the same principles in different cases. I have found that letting people deal with their own issues instead of trying to solving the problems for them makes me so much happier and less stressed about my own life.

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So useful and thoughtful!

This book provides a lot to think about as well as useful tools for becoming a better listener communicator friend and partner!

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So helpful

This book had so many helpful passages that I bookmarked. I would recommend this to anyone. The book deals with communicating with family members and difficult conversations you need to have with your loved ones. Definitely worth the listen.

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very easy to apply instantly...Will re-read

great book. points easy to apply. a must for couples trying to improve communication skills.

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great info

the information was great. delivery, not so much. if u can get through the monotone, u will b fine.

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Great book

This was very informative. I learned a lot of techniques for communicating with family and others. Definitely worth the time. I did however have to run it on 1.5x as the narrator read extremely slow! Even with it at this speed there were times it was slow!!

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Good book on connecting!

Great read! I was able to view my experiences in a new vantage point. 5 stars!

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Feels Human

This book is very easy to digest. It provides clear examples of the ideas. Most importantly it’s not full of jargon. It’s a very relatable book for humans who want to interact better. A quick listen that offers huge perspective. Highly recommend it for family, parents and partners.

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Transformational

I look forward to every opportunity I can get to listen to this book. It has been transformational in my personal growth and I will most definitely go back and listen to it again.

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Relevant

Very good information. She reads it like a therapist so it’s hard to listen to sometimes. I’ve listened more than once because of the incredible information

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