
Be Happily Married
Even If Your Partner Won't Do a Thing
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Abby Medcalf PhD
About this listen
Are you ready to:
- Feel closer and more connected to your partner?
- Stop having the same argument over and over?
- Be happier and finally make changes that stick?
It’s not too late. You can reclaim your relationship and your happiness. You just need to have the right tools to finally make it happen.
Over the last 30 years I’ve helped thousands of people like you create connection and happiness in their relationships. Combining my hands-on experience and the latest research, I’ve created a proven system to transform any relationship into a connected, communication machine.
My goal is, above all, to provide practical, usable tools that work - not unproven ideas or pie-in-the-sky theories that sound good but do little to help you in your day-to-day life. You can create the relationship of your dreams, even if you’re partner won’t do a thing!
In this book, you’ll learn:
- The secret to why your past attempts at change haven’t lasted
- Effective tools to get your relationship unstuck, quickly and easily
- How small, simple steps can get you big results, no matter how long you’ve struggled
- The keys to creating a happy and connected relationship
The level of happiness in your life is directly related to the level of happiness in your relationship. This is the last relationship book you'll ever have to listen to because I’ll show you exactly how to get there.
©2018 Abby Medcalf (P)2019 Abby MedcalfListeners also enjoyed...
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- LoriD
- 10-08-24
Very helpful
I’m glad I purchased this audio book. Lots of helpful tips. I would recommend it.
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- Hjwmommy
- 02-16-23
Throughly enjoyed!
Abby’s podcast is amazing as is the book.
I am not currently married but in a new relationship I would like to keep on track.
I found ideas in this book that help in all relationships in life.
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- Jennifer Pando
- 03-09-23
Love Love Dr. Abby
I found Dr. Abby podcast first and the book did not disappoint!!!!! I LOVE that she's down to earth and the humor she brings ,(even her Jewish mothering).If everyone listened and read the book,you would definitely get world peace Dr. Abby!!! Her Book and podcast has helped me in all my relationships 100%! CAN NOT WAIT for the next book!!!!
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- Paula
- 06-09-23
Thoroughly enjoyed!
Dr. Abby is so intuitive - she gives different perspective on certain topics.
I could relate to just about anything she said and realized what I was doing wrong.
Just a breath of fresh air to know that I’m not the only one that feels x, y & z. I will be implementing everything I learned to my relationship with myself and those around me.
Thank you Abby!
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- Mindi Hernandez
- 04-03-22
Dr. Abby knows her stuff!!!!!!
I’ve been listening to Dr. Abby’s podcast and was thrilled she wrote a book. The book closely mirrors the podcast which I enjoy because it reinforces the message and gives me reminders of things I had forgotten from a prior podcast. I love being able to flip to and reread a chapter that pertains to something I might be going through. I often recommend Dr. Abby’s book and podcast to my friends and family. She includes the science behind the psychology, practices, and why we feel or do the things we do and provides practical resolutions, which more often than not makes us recognize and call ourselves out our own b.s. I really love her no-nonsense, yet loving, delivery. Definitely a worthy read! Give the book as a gift to everyone you care about!
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- Ashley Bedenbaugh
- 01-27-23
Great book! Easy to follow! Awesome tips!
Abby also has an amazing podcast. I think you should check it out after enjoying this book! y
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- Anonymous User
- 05-28-24
Practical advice
I listened to Abby’s podcast first and then her books, I would say she helps not only my marriage but also the communication between my boys aged 8 & 10. She inspires me new insights on my marriage and gives simple, practical and straightforward ways to deal with the most common frustrations every couples may encounter.
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- Andrew
- 05-10-22
Just as good as her podcast!
I’ve changed my life and my marriage because of Abby’s book and podcast. I’m a better mother from it also. Will be highlighting and note taking my physical copy asap!
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- Kelsie
- 01-11-24
Amazing!!
Thank you so much for your hard work on this book, Dr. Abby! I am a huge fan of the podcast, so I’m glad I was able to listen to this audiobook
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- Laura Siemsen
- 06-05-23
Highly recommend
I found her podcast and then her book! Did her steps and made a happier life for myself and the relationship in my life! Thank you Abby! She makes you laugh too 😆
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