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It's Not You
- 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single
- Narrated by: Nina Alvamar
- Length: 4 hrs and 2 mins
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Publisher's summary
“Why am I still single?” If you’re single and searching, there’s no end to other people’s explanations, excuses, and criticism explaining why you haven’t found a partner:
- “You’re too picky. Just find a good-enough guy and you’ll be fine.”
- “You’re too desperate. If men think you need them, they’ll run scared.”
- “You’re too independent. Smart, ambitious women always have a harder time finding mates.”
- “You have low self-esteem. You can’t love someone else until you’ve learned to love yourself.”
- “You’re too needy. You can’t be happy in a relationship until you’ve learned to be happy on your own.”
Based on her popular Modern Love column, Sara Eckel’s It’s Not You challenges these myths, encouraging singletons to stop picking apart their personalities and to start tapping into their own wisdom about who and what is right for them. Supported by the latest psychological and sociological research, as well as interviews with people who have experienced longtime singledom, Eckel creates a strong and empowering argument to understand and accept that there’s no one reason why you’re single - you just are.
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- By J. Malouin on 09-29-15
By: Meghan Daum
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The Dating Manifesto
- A Drama-Free Plan for Pursuing Marriage with Purpose
- By: Lisa Anderson
- Narrated by: Jaimee Draper
- Length: 5 hrs and 51 mins
- Unabridged
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Face it, your attitudes about marriage and the path to marriage are probably wrong. Some you've inherited, some you've simply bought - hook, line, and sinker - and some you've made up yourself. They have translated into bad action (or no action) in dating and relationships. But it's not too late; you can break the cycle of dating dysfunction and learn to honor marriage, marry well, and live intentionally while you wait.
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Modern and biblical
- By Ian on 08-12-15
By: Lisa Anderson
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Normal Gets You Nowhere
- By: Kelly Cutrone
- Narrated by: Kelly Cutrone
- Length: 3 hrs and 42 mins
- Unabridged
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With Normal Gets You Nowhere, Kelly Cutrone invites us to get our freak on. History is full of successful, world-changing people who did not fit in. Think Nelson Mandela, Joan of Arc, Eleanor Roosevelt, Amelia Earhart, John Lennon, and Rosa Parks. Instead of changing themselves to accommodate the status quo or what others thought they should be, these people hung a light on their differences - and changed humanity in the process. “I know you don’t feel normal, so why are you trying to act it and prove to everyone you are?” Cutrone says.
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For open minds and hearts.
- By Kelly on 01-06-12
By: Kelly Cutrone
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Slay Like a Mother
- How to Destroy What's Holding You Back So You Can Live the Life You Want
- By: Katherine Wintsch
- Narrated by: Katherine Wintsch
- Length: 8 hrs and 47 mins
- Unabridged
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In this emotionally charged how-to guide, you'll laugh, you'll cry, and you'll discover eye-opening lessons about: The mask you're wearing. The one you hide behind when you say everything is "just fine" when it's not. Your unrealistic expectations. The goal-setting tactics you're deploying to get ahead could be what's holding you back. The difference between struggling and suffering. Being a mother is a struggle - it always has been - but your suffering is optional.
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Great for dads too!
- By Earl Cox on 06-20-19
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Girl, Wash Your Face
- Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be
- By: Rachel Hollis
- Narrated by: Rachel Hollis
- Length: 7 hrs and 4 mins
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As the founder of the lifestyle website TheChicSite.com and CEO of her own media company, Rachel Hollis developed an immense online community by sharing tips for better living while fearlessly revealing the messiness of her own life. Now, in this challenging and inspiring new book, Rachel exposes the 20 lies and misconceptions that too often hold us back from living joyfully and productively.
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More for women who are mothers
- By MeredithNCSU girl on 04-07-18
By: Rachel Hollis
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Unhooked
- How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love, and Lose at Both
- By: Laura Sessions Stepp
- Narrated by: Ellen Archer
- Length: 9 hrs and 9 mins
- Unabridged
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Here's an eye-opening examination of the "hookup" culture, seen through the experiences of high-school- and college-age women who confront the hard lessons of dating, love, and sex. Stepp follows three groups of young women and comes away with some disturbing insights. Relationships and romance are seen as messy and time-consuming, and love is postponed or, worse, seen as impossible. Many young women can't handle this, and they're being battered physically and emotionally by the new dating landscape.
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Essential Reading for Parents
- By Elton on 04-19-07
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For Men Only (Revised and Updated Edition)
- A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women
- By: Shaunti Feldhahn, Jeff Feldhahn
- Narrated by: Jeff Feldhahn
- Length: 3 hrs and 22 mins
- Unabridged
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Finally, you can understand her! If you're like most men, you've burned up lots of energy trying to figure out what a woman wants, what makes her tick, and how to make her happy. The good news: success is simpler than you thought. In their groundbreaking classic, For Men Only, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn reveal the eye opening truths and simple acts that will radically improve your relationship with the woman you love.
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Really helpfull!
- By kristie bento on 03-18-15
By: Shaunti Feldhahn, and others
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Finding Your Own North Star
- Claiming the Life You Were Meant to Live
- By: Martha Beck
- Narrated by: Karen White
- Length: 14 hrs and 46 mins
- Unabridged
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As the creator of Life Designs, Inc., Martha Beck has helped hundreds of clients find their own North Stars and figure out how to fulfill their potential and create joyful lives through her lectures, seminars, and one-on-one counseling. In this book she shares her step-by-step program that will guide you to fulfill your own potential.
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Narration not for me
- By MARYANN ORDONEZ on 10-02-17
By: Martha Beck
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Have a New You by Friday
- How to Accept Yourself, Boost Your Confidence & Change Your Life in 5 Days
- By: Kevin Leman
- Narrated by: Wayne Shepherd
- Length: 6 hrs and 15 mins
- Unabridged
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How many times have you tried to change your own habits, only to find that changing yourself is even harder than trying to change someone else? With his signature wit and commonsense psychology, Dr. Kevin Leman walks you through your own personal five-day action plan. You will come to accept the truth about yourself, boost your confidence by identifying the lies you’re telling yourself (and putting them to rest for good), and change your life by concentrating on becoming who you really want to be.
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Wrong title?
- By Marianne on 03-25-11
By: Kevin Leman
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The Wrong End of the Table
- A Mostly Comic Memoir of a Muslim Arab American Woman Just Trying to Fit In
- By: Ayser Salman, Reza Aslan - foreword
- Narrated by: Ayser Salman, Assaf Cohen
- Length: 7 hrs and 35 mins
- Unabridged
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Part memoir and part how-not-to guide, The Wrong End of the Table is everything you wanted to know about Arabs but were afraid to ask, with chapters such as “Tattoos and Other National Security Risks,” “You Can’t Blame Everything on Your Period; Sometimes You’re Going to Be a Crazy Bitch: and Other Advice from Mom,” and even an open letter to Trump. This is the story of every American outsider on a path to find themselves in a country of beautiful diversity.
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Not what I was looking for
- By Amazon Customer on 09-01-22
By: Ayser Salman, and others
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30 Lessons for Loving
- Advice from the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships, and Marriage
- By: Karl Pillemer Ph.D.
- Narrated by: Sean Pratt
- Length: 8 hrs and 41 mins
- Unabridged
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Based on the most detailed survey of long married people ever conducted, 30 Lessons for Loving shows the way to lifelong, fulfilling relationships. The author, an internationally renowned gerontologist at Cornell University, offers sage advice from the oldest and wisest Americans on everything from finding a partner, to deciding to commit, to growing old together.
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Our Elders Really are the Experts!
- By Cher Finnan on 12-29-15
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For Women Only, Revised and Updated Edition
- What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men
- By: Shaunti Feldhahn
- Narrated by: Shaunti Feldhahn
- Length: 4 hrs and 8 mins
- Unabridged
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Discover the truth he wants you to know! The man in your life is keeping secrets. They’re so deep inside he barely knows they're there, much less how to talk to you about them. Yet he genuinely wants you to "get" him - to understand his inner life, his fears, his needs... In her landmark best seller For Women Only, Shaunti Feldhahn reveals what every woman - single or married - needs to know.
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Life changing
- By Jill on 10-19-13
By: Shaunti Feldhahn
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- C. Bournea
- 09-24-23
So Enlightening
This amazing book is a must-read for anyone who is single of any gender.
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- LUIS
- 02-22-24
Not the demographic but very helpful
This book is not geared towards men but 90% of it is applicable. The same worries and struggles seem to be universal whether you’re a masculine man or a feminine woman. Some of us get hurt deeply once and we never recover.
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- Victoria
- 05-30-23
The perfect book for single women
What an invaluable and liberating book for single women! Perfect for audiobook format too. Found that it lingered with me even when I wasn’t listening to it. Thank you Sara Eckel for this book and for dismantling so many things we all restrict ourselves with.
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- Foodie
- 06-14-22
So relatable — I feel seen!
Loved this book so much! It’s like she was saying everything I’ve been thinking as a single woman who’s been single much longer than I thought I would but I’ve never heard anyone else say it all out loud before. It’s very encouraging about finding self-compassion as we journey through our lives while being single and searching. Wonderful read!
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- Anonymous User
- 05-24-20
Good Book
I think she really brings valuable attention and advice to the way I can better be compassionate to myself and to enjoying my single life. I don't think she did anything wrong with her story as she did a great job of showing how complex our development is. I think why it was hard to relate a bit was because I am alot younger than she is, sk their is a different culture that could be why I didn't relate, but it was super interesting to learn about how older career people think about there life. It's not really a problem with her book its just that I hope that there is a book like this that can open up about the shame of being single when you're a women of color and when your questioning your sexuality. Otherwise I really enjoyed this novel !
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- Brisham
- 09-14-22
Poignant and at times funny
Good story about the author’s search for a long-term relationship
Enduring (well-meaning) commentary from others
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- Angela
- 12-23-23
I thought this was something else
I’m struggling being single. I’m taking a break from dating and I’ve decided to focus on myself and am on a journey of self reflection and self love. I thought this book would help. Instead I found it very triggering. The book goes on and on about all the negative stigma there is on being single and how bad the dating scene can be peppered with positive ways to look at it but this book felt more negative than positive. I thought it would focus more on navigating life as a single woman and be empowering but it made me feel worse. I finally stopped listening. The narrator is awesome but this book is not what I was looking for.
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