
After the Affair, Third Edition
Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
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Janis A. Spring
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“Full of juicy, concrete advice to heal from an affair.” (Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, New York Times best-selling author of Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs)
From a clinical psychologist who served as a clinical supervisor in the Department of Psychology at Yale University, received the CPA’s award for Distinguished Contribution to the Practice of Psychology, and has treated couples and trained therapists for over four decades, this newly updated, award-winning book provides concrete, proven strategies for those who seek to survive their partner’s infidelity and to rebuild the relationship after an affair.
There is nothing quite like the devastation caused when a partner has been unfaithful. Hurt partners often experience a profound shattering of their familiar and valued sense of self and fall into a depression that can last for years. For the relationship, infidelity is often a death blow.
This new third edition of After the Affair, with more than 600,000 copies sold, helps guide both hurt and unfaithful partners through three stages of healing: normalizing the crisis, deciding whether to recommit to their partner, and rekindling trust and sexual intimacy. It includes a new section in which patients ask questions not addressed in previous editions, and the author provides concrete strategies for earning trust and forgiveness.
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- By Sam on 04-19-23
By: Rebekah Clarke
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How Can I Forgive You?
- The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To
- By: Janis A. Spring, Michael Spring
- Narrated by: Coleen Marlo
- Length: 7 hrs and 33 mins
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Until now, we have been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. Dr. Spring, a gifted therapist and the award-winning author of After the Affair, proposes a radical, life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives - without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for genuine forgiveness - one that asks as much of the offender as it does of us.
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I'm a Christian
- By jelady on 06-14-19
By: Janis A. Spring, and others
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How Can I Forgive You? (Updated Edition)
- The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To
- By: Janis A. Spring PhD, Michael Spring - contributor
- Narrated by: Xe Sands
- Length: 7 hrs and 42 mins
- Unabridged
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Until now, we've been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring proposes a radical, life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives—without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for earning genuine forgiveness—one that asks as much of the offender as it does of the hurt party.
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is helping me forgive when I never thought possible
- By Anonymous User on 12-26-24
By: Janis A. Spring PhD, and others
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Infidelity
- The Best Worst Thing that Could Happen to Your Marriage: The Complete Guide on How to Heal from Affairs
- By: Talal H Alsaleem LMFT
- Narrated by: Daan Stone
- Length: 5 hrs and 30 mins
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Infidelity: The Best Worst Thing That Could Happen to Your Marriage was written to help couples navigate their way to healing after experiencing the devastating impact of physical and emotional affairs. Listening to this book will allow you the opportunity to process the affair, assess the damage, and make an informed choice about the future of your relationship.
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night time bed story
- By BrownGuy78 on 09-20-22
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Recovering from the Affair
- Your Guide to Saving Your Marriage After Emotional or Physical Infidelity
- By: Lee H. Baucom PhD
- Narrated by: Lee H. Baucom PhD
- Length: 4 hrs and 6 mins
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Infidelity does not have to be the end of your marriage. Your marriage can recover and thrive after an affair. But only when you get to the roots of the problem, solve the issues, rebuild trust, and learn to move forward.
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Chapter 5 Tells the Cheater Not to Confess
- By TIKI on 04-07-25
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Healing Your Spouse After Your Affair
- How to Truly Understand Things from Your Partner's Perspective and Provide the Needed Support
- By: Laura Redmond
- Narrated by: Siobhan Hallinan
- Length: 3 hrs
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Imagine the pain and devastation of discovering your partner has had an affair. The betrayal, the hurt, and the feeling of being torn apart from the person you once loved. You may feel like your world has been turned upside down, leaving you wondering if your relationship can ever be healed. But what if there was a way to mend the wounds and rebuild trust? This groundbreaking book reveals the secrets to healing your spouse after an affair, from understanding their perspective to providing the necessary support.
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Disappointed
- By Gabrielle LaGrandier on 05-26-24
By: Laura Redmond
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Getting Past the Affair
- A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On - Together or Apart
- By: Kristina Coop Gordon PhD, Donald H. Baucom PhD, Douglas K. Snyder PhD
- Narrated by: Coleen Marlo
- Length: 11 hrs and 50 mins
- Unabridged
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Discovering that a partner has been unfaithful hits you like an earthquake. Long after the first jolt, emotional aftershocks can make it difficult to be there for your family, manage your daily life, and think clearly about your options. Whether you want to end the relationship or piece things back together, Getting Past the Affair guides you through the initial trauma so you can understand what happened and why before deciding how to move forward.
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AudioBook needs PDF file
- By Mariama S Jalloh-Heyward on 02-26-19
By: Kristina Coop Gordon PhD, and others
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Cheating in a Nutshell
- What Infidelity Does to the Victim
- By: Wayne Mitchell, Tamara Mitchell
- Narrated by: Sarah Zimmerman
- Length: 5 hrs and 53 mins
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After being cheated on, individuals may feel battered by emotion, with nowhere to turn, and no roadmap in sight. International relationship advice authors Wayne and Tamara Mitchell provide that roadmap through Cheating in a Nutshell: What Infidelity Does to the Victim.
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Very anti-forgiveness
- By Mom Of Many on 09-13-24
By: Wayne Mitchell, and others
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Out of the Doghouse
- A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating
- By: Robert Weiss
- Narrated by: Timothy Andrés Pabon
- Length: 4 hrs and 58 mins
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It's all about cheating - the biggest threat to intimacy. Typically, men are good at creating rifts in relationships but terrible at mending them, especially after they've repeatedly betrayed their partner through sexual infidelity. For the most part, cheating men are both intimacy-challenged and empathy-challenged, and, as such, they lack the skills needed to overcome the damage wrought by their infidelity. Robert Weiss has spent over 20 years in the treatment of sex and intimacy issues. He's helped both cheating men and their betrayed spouses....
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Dude: if you are confused, listen to this.
- By Jeff M on 08-01-20
By: Robert Weiss
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Rebuilding Trust
- Guided Therapy Techniques and Activities to Restore Love, Trust, and Intimacy in Your Relationship
- By: Morgan Johnson MA LPC, Gina Senarighi PhD CPC - foreword
- Narrated by: Ann Sprinkle
- Length: 5 hrs and 12 mins
- Unabridged
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Of all the ways relationships fall apart, betrayal can rock us to the core. And yet, for couples or partners who want to stay together and do the work, healing is possible. The old relationships that no longer serve us can be dismantled and reassembled into deeper, stronger, more satisfying bonds than we ever imagined.
By: Morgan Johnson MA LPC, and others
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How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair
- Recovering from Infidelity, Restoring Intimacy and Regaining Trust
- By: Janet Bloom
- Narrated by: Siobhan Hallinan
- Length: 3 hrs and 49 mins
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Ninety-eight percent of men admit to having fantasies about someone other than their partner. Eighty percent of women do too! So where is the line? Infidelity is a far more complex psychological matter than just someone straying because they aren’t happy in their relationship. Regardless of your gender, sexual orientation, level of commitment, or type of affair, you will need help if you want to help your partner and yourself. It’s not going to be easy, nor should it be. But for anyone who is genuinely sorry and prepared to make the effort, nothing is impossible!
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Great information!
- By Eleanor Mathew on 10-21-23
By: Janet Bloom
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Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts
- By: Stefanie Carnes
- Narrated by: Deb Thomas
- Length: 9 hrs and 2 mins
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When your partner betrays, what are the first steps to picking up the pieces of your shattered heart? Many unsuspecting people wake up every day to discover their loved one, the one person whom they are supposed to trust completely, has been living a life of lies and deceit, because they suffer from a disease: sex addiction. This is a disease shrouded in secrecy and shame. This is your go-to guide for what to do when you discover your partner is a sex addict.
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Addiction is the partner’s fault?
- By Amazon Customer on 03-06-20
By: Stefanie Carnes
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- EHMnicke
- 07-02-21
Great read
Really helps me understand myself and my relationship with my spouse. I will listen again.
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- mrs_smp
- 09-22-22
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The emotions I went through in this book. It has truly helped in my healing process.
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- Amazon Customer
- 05-28-23
Informative
I hate that I needed this book. I listened to the book with an open heart and mind. The concepts made sense and are rooted seeing both sides of the topic. There is a ton of content and the author refers to several workbook docs that aren’t visible with the audio version. I plan on making use of those and re-reading the book to ensure I am solid on the topics covered.
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- Christopher Hanson
- 04-11-21
Perfect !!!!
Perfect examples to grasp everything from both sides of the relationship and to mindful and grow..
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- Savonne Whitfield
- 08-02-24
Clear Concepts
Breaks down perspectives very well. Stories were relatable and the it’s a judgement free read.
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- Amazon Customer
- 01-16-23
Healing words
This was an informative book that has helped me in the space I find myself in after 41 years of marriage.
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- salam04
- 08-31-24
Must read for couples
Janis was great in explaining deep state of why affairs occur and how to overcome them
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- Amazon Customer
- 03-04-25
A great look into both perspective
I liked it very much. It gave me so many great exercises to work on myself and my relationship.
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- Mhuff
- 12-07-22
Good read
We are going through a lot of things in our marriage mostly cyber. Listening to the information provided and through self examination I feel much better about things and I’m hoping that it will help her partner as well.
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- Janet P Smither
- 08-31-23
As helpful as a live counseling session
Recently having discovered an issue that rocked me I decided not to have a knee jerk reaction but try and understand. It ain’t easy but listening to this book has provided insights for understanding. I rolled my eyes as couple of times but mostly agreed with or could understand most of what Janis is saying. It’s well worth the listen/read for anyone in the painful situation of infidelity no matter whether the relationship was emotional or physical. Many blessings on your journey to recovering your relationship if that is what YOU CHOOSE! It’s your choice and no one else’s!
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