
The New Rules of Marriage
What You Need to Know to Make Love Work
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Terrence Real
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Women have changed in the last 25 years. They have become more powerful, independent, self-confident, and happy. Yet men remain irresponsible and emotionally detached. They don't know how to respond to frustrated partners who just want their mates to show up and grow up.
Enter the good news: In this revolutionary audiobook, Real offers women a set of effective tools with which they can create the truly intimate relationships they desire and deserve. He guides you through the process of relationship repair with exercises that you can do alone or with your partner.
We have never wanted so much from our relationships as we do today. More than any other generation, we yearn for our mates to be lifelong friends and lovers. The New Rules of Marriage shows us how to fulfill this courageous and uncompromising new vision.
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- john harbolt
- 08-29-24
All the insight this man has is genius
I liked everything about it. me and my wife love listening to his books. I would recommend to any couple
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- Colorado Swimmer
- 08-01-19
A Lot of Good Nuggets in Here
There is so much good knowledge in here I feel like I need to listen to it another time. Everyone should listen to this book even if you don't think your marriage needs help.
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- Stacy Mccaughn
- 04-17-19
Wonderful book
I read this book after reading fierce intimacy. This book did not disappoint I feel that it simplifies a couple's relationship and places individual as well as responsibility as a couple weary Blum's it gives a nice framework from which to work from.
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- S. Daughton
- 02-03-15
Compatible with nonviolent communication
I appreciate the wisdom and guidance in this book. As someone who has studied and practiced nonviolent communication for over a decade, I find that this fits well and complements that approach, but with many specific and very helpful suggestions for healthy practices in relationship. I recommend it highly, not just for couples, but for anyone seeking to improve the connection in any significant relationship.
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- Megan B.
- 06-15-19
Look forward to reading it again!
There was so much relevant information that I am beginning over to process it thoroughly. I wanted to just listen the first time, instinctually agreeing with what I was hearing. I do need to begin again and take notes to properly absorb. I loved this.
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- JR
- 09-22-21
By far the best in relational examples.
Highly recommend this book. This author did an amazing job at giving real life examples and calling a spade a spade. If you do the work he recommends, well worth it!!!
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- Eric
- 12-16-24
Tools to make positive change in marrage
Great book with tools to help a marital relationship immediately. Understand how your past affects present and future in a marrage.
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- Benjamin
- 06-17-11
Witty, clear, helpful, enlightening.
This is definitely the edition you want to get. The extra sections of the book, while valuable, don't really come out in audio. The extra bonus of having Terry Real's own voice talking about the patients that vex, delight, and enlighten him is very valuable.
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- Lisa Wright
- 02-25-19
Leave it Laying Around ;)
Good Stuff! Better if your significant other reads and wants to do the exercises as well. (sigh)
Nevertheless, this book contains practical relationship strategies to live by.
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- robyn
- 06-15-15
stolen from Pia Melody
What did you like best about The New Rules of Marriage? What did you like least?
Pia Mellodys model
What was most disappointing about Terrence Real’s story?
I can't believe the nerve of this man to steal his material right from Pia Mellodys Post Induction Therapy Model. He should give credit where credit is due. I hope she sues him for copyright infridement
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