You’re Not Listening
What You’re Missing and Why It Matters
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Kate Murphy
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When was the last time you listened to someone, or someone really listened to you?
This life-changing book will transform your conversations forever
As a society, we’ve forgotten how to listen. Modern life is noisy and frenetic, and technology provides constant distraction. So we tune things out or listen selectively – even to those we love most. We’ve become scared of other people’s points of view, and of silence.
Now more than ever, we need to listen to those around us. New York Times contributor Kate Murphy draws on countless conversations she has had with everyone from priests to CIA interrogators, focus group moderators to bartenders, her great-great aunt to her friend's toddler, to show how only by listening well can we truly connect with others.
Listening is about curiosity and patience – about asking the right questions in the right way. Improvisational comedians and con men are much better at it than most of us. And the cleverest people can be the worst at it. Listening has the potential to transform our relationships and our working lives, improve our self-knowledge, and increase our creativity and happiness. While it may take some effort, it's a skill that can be learnt and perfected.
When all we crave is to understand and be understood, You're Not Listening shows us how.
©2020 Kate Murphy (P)2020 Penguin AudioListeners also enjoyed...
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- Anonymous User
- 10-31-23
A must read for everyone
A great book, highly recommend. Easy “read” with a wealth of knowledge. This book will be valuable for anybody, in any career!
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- 01-17-23
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loved it!!!! I thought I was a better listener than I am!! I will be trying harder!
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- Anonymous User
- 06-24-21
listen more... start here
was a book that I needed to consider... the outcome was motivation to listen to the world.
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- Amazon Customer
- 04-10-23
Good content
I learnt the importance of being a good listener in communications. I am expecting more for the methods to be a good listener
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- Anonymous User
- 04-22-21
I hope to be better at listening!
Acknowledged some behaviours within myself that are not useful... now to work on being a better listener!
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- MP SINGH
- 10-27-24
Great insights…
You Are Not Listening: What You’re Missing and Why It Matters by Kate Murphy explores the essential skill of listening and its impact on personal and professional relationships. Murphy argues that, in a world increasingly focused on self-expression and digital communication, true listening is becoming rare. She delves into the psychological and social benefits of listening, explaining how it fosters empathy, connection, and understanding. Through interviews and research, she highlights practical tips to improve listening skills and emphasizes how genuine engagement can transform relationships and lead to deeper insights. This book serves as a reminder that listening is a powerful, often overlooked, tool for meaningful connection.
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