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  • Silently Seduced, Revised & Updated

  • When Parents Make Their Children Partners
  • By: Kenneth Adams
  • Narrated by: Craig Jessen
  • Length: 4 hrs and 33 mins
  • 4.8 out of 5 stars (357 ratings)

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Silently Seduced, Revised & Updated

By: Kenneth Adams
Narrated by: Craig Jessen
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When a parent singles out a child for special privileges and attention, that child is often unaware that the relationship is unhealthy - even incestuous. As adults, these children struggle to feel validated, because while they have not been directly abused, they feel a sense of violation and crossed boundaries - usually done in the name of 'love' and 'caring'. The parent's love feels more confining than freeing, more demanding than giving, more intrusive than nurturing. Yet these children suffer from what psychologist Kenneth Adams calls The Silent Seduction - because there is nothing loving or caring about a close parent-child relationship that services the needs of the parent rather than the child.

In this revised and updated 20th anniversary edition of his groundbreaking book Silently Seduced, Dr. Adams explains how 'feeling close', especially with the opposite-sex parent, is not the source of comfort the image suggests, especially when that child is cheated out of a childhood by being a parent's surrogate partner. He offers a framework to understand this covert incest and its effect on sexuality, intimacy, and relationships, and how victims can begin the process of recovery.

©2011 Kenneth M. Adams (P)2013 Audible, Inc.
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excellent

clear, understandable, thorough and straight to the point of this specific subject. 10 / 10

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Informative

Very good book about emotional incest. I’m a therapist and recommend this to all of my clients.

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life changer

I have not heard this term very much. I've done extensive research on narcissism and codependency. this should really be more commonplace and much more discussion should be done of it

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Useful and Still Relevant

I enjoyed this book and found the advice useful, sensitive and logical. There is a FAQ chapter that addresses LGBTQ folks and ways to apply the inner rewiring necessary to make changes.

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This book helped me save myself and my marriage.

Helping pinpoint your profile of enmeshment, the characteristics that follow based upon the profile, and the Moving Forward chapter, all give the necessary reinforcement of being autonomous and moving forward with your life free of resentment and guilt.

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Fairly good

I could have done without the word "Daddy" being repeated in a childlike voice over and over. However, it validates much of what an unhealthy emotional relationship can do to one's behaviour and thought patterns.

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Great book on a delicate subject.

Honestly the narrator made it slightly creepy, but that's my own personal preference. The book is expertly written and helps the reader understand why they or their spouse acts a certain way and gives steps on how to move forward. It's a difficult subject and healing process, but this book definitely helps.

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Surprisingly good

A surprisingly well-written and well-narrated book. I wouldn't have made it through a book on this topic otherwise.

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Excellent Resource

I’m a licensed professional counselor. I find this to be an excellent resource for other professionals or as a resource for anyone who wishes to learn more about their own lives and hearts, and move toward a path of healing.

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Audible version off

The book is very good. However the audio version the chapters are off. Chapter 9 is 7. Chapter 10 is faq. Seems to be missing 2 chapters.

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