
Conquering Shame and Codependency
8 Steps to Freeing the True You
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Carlotta Brentan
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Darlene Lancer
About this listen
Shame and doubting one's worth can be debilitating. Unemployment and isolation as a result of the pandemic can fuel these negative feelings.
Learn how to heal from the destructive hold of shame and codependency by implementing eight steps that will empower the real you and lead to healthier relationships.
Shame: the torment you feel when you're exposed, humiliated, or rejected; the feeling of not being good enough. It's a deeply painful and universal emotion yet is not frequently discussed.
For some, shame lurks in the unconscious, undermining self-esteem, destroying confidence, and leading to codependency. These codependent relationships - where we overlook our own needs and desires as we try to care for, protect, or please another - often cover up abuse, addiction, or other harmful behaviors.
Shame and codependency feed off one another, making us feel stuck, never able to let go, move on, and become the true self we were meant to be.
In Conquering Shame and Codependency, Darlene Lancer sheds new light on shame: how codependents' feelings and beliefs about shame affect their identity, their behavior, and how shame can corrode relationships, destroying trust and love. She then provides eight steps to heal from shame, learn to love yourself, and develop healthy relationships.
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What even is shame? This is where I was starting.
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Deep dive into the fundamentals of codependency
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Life Changing
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Excellent book! Thank you!!
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Best book on codependency I’ve found
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Fantastic book that is helping me understand my shame.
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If you’re easily distracted by this sort of thing, you may want to read a copy of the book instead of listening to the audiobook.
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Conquering Shame and Codependency by Darlene Lancer
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Lots of practical advice
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