
Establishing Boundaries: How to Protect Yourself, Become Assertive, Take Back Control, and Set Yourself Free
Be Confident and Fearless, Book 6
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Patrick King
About this listen
Do you feel like you must cater to others and you don’t even know why? It’s time to stand up for yourself.
Who is making the decisions in your life? There is a fine line between being generous and giving and being too self-sacrificing. It’s time to find that line and enforce it.
How to manage negativity and say no. Stop being a pushover.
Establishing boundaries will give you a diagnosis and breakdown of the beliefs that keep you under the control and manipulation of others. As we learn more about ourselves, we will pick apart our fears and insecurities and come to a wide variety of tools to take back your life.
This audiobook will help you will immediately start to understand how your life should be - free of obligation, fear, pressure, and pain. Never again will you fall prey to such disempowering beliefs.
Stop caving to pressure, obligation, fear, and guilt.
Patrick King is an internationally best-selling author and social skills coach. His writing draws a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real-life experience.
Stop lighting yourself on fire to keep others warm.
- Porous boundaries, flexible boundaries, and effective boundaries.
- The proper language, phrases, and approach to protect yourself.
- How to deal with toxic people and vampires.
- Extracting yourself from bad situations.
- How to make sure that your intentions match your actions.
Know your rights, set your standards. Become your own master.
Imagine a life where you set your own rules and only do what you truly want to do. A life where you are immune to outside pressures, and don’t feel responsible for people’s emotions and feelings. A life where you are free to speak, think, and do what you want.
Learn to defend yourself. Buy this audiobook now.
Be Confident and Fearless series:
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- The Art of Everyday Assertiveness: Speak Up. Set Boundaries. Say No. Take Back Control. Get What You Want.
- Bulletproof Confidence: The Art of Not Caring What People Think and Living Fearlessly
- Fearless Social Confidence: Strategies to Live Without Insecurity, Speak Without Fear, Beat Social Anxiety, and Stop Caring What Others Think
- Mental Toughness and Iron Will: Become Tenacious, Resilient, Psychologically Strong, and Tough as Nails
- Establishing Boundaries: How to Protect Yourself, Become Assertive, Take Back Control, and Set Yourself Free
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- Langston
- 11-25-22
Explains a lot about my life
I’ve taken a deep dive into this book twice now and from it, I realize a few things about myself and the relationships I’ve fostered over the years. I learned that I have poor boundaries or ones that I’ve never truly enforced. This book has helped me with what a boundary should look like and how to announce them to others. It is a really good book and I’m looking forward to listening to it a third time soon!
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- laura
- 06-06-21
Patrick King is a fine author.
I enjoy his books. I like when he does the narration though. this is valid advice. I am one of those nice people who needs to be more selective or find a proper church. lol
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- rutituti.
- 02-12-22
Very helpful , well worth my time.
enjoyed listening, short and to the point and I really appreciated that. I really needed to learn these lessons along time ago but better late than never. So glad I got this book.
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