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  • I Didn't Sign Up for This

  • A Couples Therapist Shares Real-Life Stories of Breaking Patterns and Finding Joy in Relationships . . . Including Her Own
  • By: Dr. Tracy Dalgleish
  • Narrated by: Dr. Tracy Dalgleish
  • Length: 9 hrs and 1 min
  • 4.4 out of 5 stars (68 ratings)

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I Didn't Sign Up for This

By: Dr. Tracy Dalgleish
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What happens when your relationship no longer feels like the one you said "yes" to?

Couples therapist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish has spent the last seventeen years dedicated to helping hundreds of couples in distress find hope and healing, sometimes by staying together and other times not. Breakdowns in communication, lack of intimacy, infidelity, overbearing in-laws and exes (to name a few)―she's seen it all.

Shortly after the birth of her first child, Dr. Tracy suddenly began to see herself in her clients' narratives. Despite the overwhelming joy she felt as a new mother, she also found herself welling up with anger and resentment toward her partner as she began shouldering more than half the domestic load and childcare labor in their marriage. In time, she found herself uttering the very words she'd heard countless times in her office from her clients: I didn't sign up for this.

Part memoir, part self-help, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish's debut book provides a rare look inside real therapy sessions with four couples―and into her own marriage. With unflinching candor and heartfelt empathy, she digs to the root of the issues that fuel our day-to-day relationship conflicts and illuminates the common struggle of what it means to be human: the incredible difficulty of showing up wholly and authentically in our most intimate relationship with others and with ourselves.

©2023 Dr. Tracy Dalgleish (P)2023 Podium Audio
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Amazing reflection

I have reflected on how my marriage is and this audio was amazingly helpful. Change is needed and perspective is being seen.

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Authors vulnerability to describe her own struggles and relationships

Recommend to all couples. Excellent narration, engaging, well written and very helpful. Read or listen to if you are interested in growing in your relationship and life

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I really enjoyed this non-fiction book!

Wonderful and insightful, it's about couples going to therapy and their journeys to overcome some of their struggles. The author also talks about some issues presented in her own relationship and reflects how she goes about them.

Would recommend to anyone who is interested in the topic of relationships and self development.

Happy reading! 📚

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Great book

Very relatable. A lot of valuable insight and information relating to relationship issues and how to overcome them.

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I wish she was my therapist!

Her descriptions and reasoning were so concise and insightful, I think I could listen to this many more times to catch all the nuances that I’ve seen in my past relationships. I like how she sprinkles bits of academic research to explain why she recommends certain paths of action.

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Very Informative!

Knowing we can’t change anyone, I liked most of the tools and examples she provided. Great narrating also!

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This book has lots of different situations. Great ideas to consider.

I liked the presentation. Easy to follow. It was always engaging and informative. Went back and reread with my wife. What a great idea. Made a positive change in our lives. I think it’s a must read for couples.

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Few insights, unnecessary personal narrative

Will this book be useful for you? If you can see the problems in these real situations from the book, probably not:
"I've had no job for years and bought a boat without discussing it with my wife first."
"My mom told my wife she was fat and she wasn't losing the baby weight fast enough. My mom went in to accuse my wife of not doing enough special things for her husband. When my wife looked to me and started to cry I did nothing."
"I picked him up and he was mad, and I didn't do anything, so why is he mad? What did I do?" Well he just said he got off the phone with his ex wife who wanted to change some custody days. "Yeah but what did I do to make him mad??" Even the therapist wants to blurt out It's not ABOUT you!
"I planned complicated meals for every day this week and instead he made something simple when other stuff came up and time was limited! Why can't he follow instructions??"

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Great insight!

Definitely loved listening to the journeys of the different couples! Gives me insight into my own marriage

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Motivating book

I often read self-help books and get totally motivated and then, after a few weeks I drop back into my bad habits and old routines. I really think this book may help me stick with my changes better than usual.

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