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Essential Tools for Modern Relationships
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Emily Sotelo Matlack
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When Multiamory authors Dedeker Winston, Emily Sotelo Matlack, and Jase Lindgren started producing their advice show about polyamory and other non-traditional relationships, they received dozens of questions from listeners about all sorts of relationship quandaries and communication stalemates. They quickly found out that existing relationship tools weren't up to the task.
Over the course of many years and hundreds of episodes, they have spent hours nerding out over research, reading up on evidence-based relationship advice, and listening to the personal struggles of hundreds of couples and individuals. This has led to the creation of Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships, a curated collection of the most popular communication tools, advice, and wisdom from the Multiamory podcast that have helped thousands of listeners. In this book, you'll learn how to: get what you need out of conversations with your partner with the Triforce of Communication; create Microscripts that will interrupt old patterns, diffuse tension, and form better communication habits; process and reconnect after an argument with Repair SHOP; determine your unique processing style, and how it may be clashing with your partner's; set up a regular RADAR check-in to support the long-term health of all of your relationships.
Contains mature themes.
©2023 Dedeker Winston, Emily Matlack, and Jase Lindgren (P)2023 Tantor MediaListeners also enjoyed...
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