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Secure Love

Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime

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Secure Love

By: Julie Menanno
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Create a lasting and loving attachment with this national bestseller, a “must-read for every couple, at any stage of their relationship” (Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone) from the expert couple’s therapist behind the popular Instagram account @TheSecureRelationship.

What does a healthy relationship look like?

A good question, in theory, but couple’s therapist Julie Menanno wants you to consider: what does a securely attached relationship feel like?

The answer to this question is the ultimate goal in Secure Love, an “incredibly wise and helpful guide” (Jen Sincero, New York Times bestselling author of You Are a Badass) to understanding secure attachment in adult relationships. While attachment theory has grown in popularity to explain the relationship between children and their caregivers, it’s also the closest science has come to making sense of our adult romantic connections.

In this book Julie Menanno, the expert behind the popular Instagram account @TheSecureRelationship, tackles:
-Why you and your partner have the same fight over and over (hint: it’s called a negative cycle, and underlying every fight, argument, silent treatment, or passive-aggressive comment is an unmet attachment need).
-“Instead of that, say this” suggested scripts of how to approach difficult situations in your relationship more effectively.
-The four attachment types, with exercises to understand you and your partner’s attachment style.
-How to improve communication, including staying connected during conflict by prioritizing vulnerability rather than protecting yourself.
-Why insecure attachment negatively impacts a couple’s sex life and how to ignite that sexual connection.

Secure Love is a crash course in understanding how you show up in a relationship and guides you on getting out of negative cycles to find safety in one another. In doing so, “you’ll be armed with eternal wisdom for strengthening your relationship” (Dr. Sue Johnson, founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and bestselling author of Hold Me Tight) and establish a secure attachment with your partner to create the bond you’ve been longing for.

©2024 Julie Menanno (P)2024 Simon & Schuster Audio
Love, Dating & Attraction Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships Psychology Inspiring
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I Have Hope for Healing

As a psychologist these concepts are not foreign; however, it’s so challenging to practice them when it’s your own relationship. This book helped me feel seen and gave me tangible tools for how to continue my growth journey, with the hope that my partner will as well. I’m appreciate of the language. It’s improved my discourse and ability to name my attachment needs.

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Recommend by my therapist! Very insightful!

Very insightful and easy to follow with lots of great examples to illustrate concepts. I learned a lot.

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Mandatory Read for Relationship Help

This book should be mandatory. It’s incredibly helpful to understand your attachment as well as your partner’s. Thank you for laying it out so clearly. The author did a fantastic job using real examples.

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Very important work in this book.

I really love how everything is broken down into a step-by-step process. This has really helped me be more conscious of the way I approach each conversation. Thank you for creating this.

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Inspiring guidance to become your best self!

Highly recommended resource to learn about emotional attachment, I learned helpful skills for assertive communication.

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Attachment styles and the deep impact they have

thought it was written very well! Very insight full and well explained described ! Made me understand some uncomfortable reality

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Simplify conflict resolution

Great book to learn about common relationship patterns that can be improved upon with this deeper look at root causes. Applicable information, easily understood, and covers misunderstandings in communication or different thinking styles. Helping to break negative cycles so couples can enjoy more peace and trust by overcoming ruptures through mutual understand of the other’s view point.

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Great Read!

It empowers you with practical tools. Takes it beyond the what and why of attachment to providing helpful tools.

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If only we had this teaching as kids

Clear, manageable, Bitesized guidance, and good examples to use in life.
Love the reading, love the examples, I feel like I was just given a phenomenal tool to use in all my relationships. DO NOT pass up the opportunity

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Clear explanations and actionable content

The author’s emphasis on progress, not perfection, and her respect for both “sides” and their concerns is really helpful. 

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