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Why Can't I Just Leave

By: Kristen Milstead PhD, Sandra L. Brown - foreword
Narrated by: Sheri Saginor
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Publisher's summary

More than 60 million people have been in a pathological love relationship with someone who has an impaired conscience. Are you one of them?

Do you feel fiercely loyal toward your partner, although your partner has put you through unspeakable acts of cruelty and betrayal?

Has your partner lied so much that sometimes you aren't sure you know what's real or who your partner really is?

Have you tried to break off the relationship, yet feel powerless to stop your partner from walking in and out of your life?

Do you alternate between believing that your partner is the love of your life and questioning your sanity or even feeling your life may be in danger?

Using the stories of survivors and social psychological research on compliance, cognitive dissonance, and thought control, Why Can't I Just Leave? explains how relationships with pathological partners can create impossible dilemmas that trap you in a distorted dream state and hijack your thoughts and emotions.

Learn what those who are conscience-impaired don't want you to know and find out how to wake up and walk out of your partner's invisible prison forever.

Foreword by Sandra L. Brown, MA, author of Women Who Love Psychopaths.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2021 Kristen Milstead (P)2022 Kristen Milstead
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Critic reviews

"Kristen has a straightforward way of explaining the complex topic of narcissistic abuse. Her book shares both insights from her personal experiences and a clear and compassionate framework for understanding the complex ways that ostensibly loving relationships can morph into something utterly corrosive and dangerous." (Dan Partland, Emmy-award winning director of UNFIT: The Psychology of Donald Trump)

"The truth is often hard to face. Getting free from an emotionally abusive relationship and facing that truth will be the hardest thing you ever do. This book is packed with been-in-the-trenches wisdom and the key to your freedom." (Tracy A. Malone, founder of Narcissist Abuse Support, author, and coach)

"With the courageous use of her own intimate relationship, Kristen Milstead provides both an exploration and explanation of every aspect of "pathological love relationships." . . . Every aspect is covered in both practical and theoretical detail, as well as by example." (David M. Reiss, MD, psychiatrist and coauthor of The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump)

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clarity

If you are in or think your in a narcissistic relationship stop looking fir a book to help you out!!!! you found it it's this one!

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Amazing book

This is the most helpful and informative book on narcissism that I have read. And I've read ALOT. this one book has helped me more than allll my studying.

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Invaluable Information and Guidance

A therapist recommended this book to me because I’m curious about personality disorders such as narcissism, sociopathy, and psychopathy.

The opening scene, which describes a boyfriend’s sociopathic behavior and his partner’s horrified reaction, drew me in immediately. I just had to find out if and how she’d escape this relationship. But the book is much more than a story of one woman’s experience with a conscience-impaired abuser. Quotes from victims, researchers, and therapists add their perspectives and insights.

I prefer listening rather than reading, so I got the audiobook version. Highly recommended.

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Finally

This was it… the final piece I needed to leave for good. Thank you so much

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Best Book Ever on This Subject

This is the best audiobook I've ever listened to on this subject. It strikes the perfect balance between the author's own experience, stories from other victims/survivors, and the latest research on pathological love relationships. The audiobook also comes with a downloadable PDF with additional info, including a glossary of terms and a resource page.

But what distinguishes this book from others I’ve read is that it gives you specific steps to get out of the relationship when you're ready.

The writing and the narration are both excellent. If you're in a relationship with someone exhibiting narcissistic or sociopathic behavior, if you care about someone who's being abused by their partner, or if you're just curious about this subject, this audiobook is for you.

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A must read

This is an amazing book!!! Helped me sort out my feelings, help me understand why I’m making the choices I’m making and struggling. Definitely going to read again. Positive and life changing

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