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The All-or-Nothing Marriage

How the Best Marriages Work

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The All-or-Nothing Marriage

By: Eli J. Finkel
Narrated by: Mark Deakins
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"After years of debate and inquiry, the key to a great marriage remained shrouded in mystery. Until now...." (Carol Dweck, author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success)

Eli J. Finkel's insightful and ground-breaking investigation of marriage clearly shows that the best marriages today are better than the best marriages of earlier eras. Indeed, they are the best marriages the world has ever known. He presents his findings here for the first time in this lucid, inspiring guide to modern marital bliss.

The All-or-Nothing Marriage reverse engineers fulfilling marriages - from the "traditional" to the utterly nontraditional - and shows how any marriage can be better.

The primary functions of marriage from 1620 to 1850 were food, shelter, and protection from violence; from 1850 to 1965, the purpose revolved around love and companionship. But today, a new kind of marraige has emerged, one oriented toward self-discovery, self-esteem, and personal growth. Finkel combines cutting-edge scientific research with practical advice; he considers paths to better communication and responsiveness; he offers guidance on when to recalibrate our expectations; and he even introduces a set of must-try "lovehacks".

This is a book for the newlywed to the empy nester, for those thinking about getting married or remarried, and for anyone looking for illuminating advice that will make a real difference to getting the most out of marriage today.

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©2017 Eli J. Finkel (P)2017 Penguin Audio
Love, Dating & Attraction Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships Relationships Sociology Young Adult
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“After years of debate and inquiry, the key to a great marriage remained shrouded in mystery. Until now. In his All-or-Nothing Marriage, Eli Finkel reveals the fascinating ways in which marriage has evolved and the things we can all do to help this all-important relationship flourish. You will definitely want to read this book.” (Carol Dweck, Stanford professor and author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success)

“If you’ve ever wondered what science has to say about how marriage has changed over time and what makes for a great one, this is the book to read. Eli Finkel is one of the world’s leading experts on relationships, and his insights are both comprehensive and revealing.” (Adam Grant, author of Give and Take, Originals, and Option B, coauthored with Sheryl Sandberg)

“Eli Finkel has written an incredible analysis of the state of marriage and a useful guide for everyone trying to make their relationship work better. He also promised us cheeseburgers if we wrote this blurb. Please get those to us ASAP, Eli.” (Aziz Ansari and Eric Klinenberg, coauthors of Modern Romance)

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Very good comprehensive view of the origin of marriage, what it’s become; and how to best navigate it for success for yourself and your partner

Setting your own course for success with your partner. Always Working on yourself first.

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A great review of the history of marriage and how it continues to evolve in the 21st century. It is practical, well researched and I believe would help a lot of married couples meet their core needs and support their partners needs too. I ordered the paperback too.

Excellence resource: highly recommended

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great conceptual models, historical reference, and narrative journey. Approaches examining a marriage from thought before emotion.

well executed and thorough.

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The book solidified a lot of what i already knew, it was a good refresher

no new insights

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It was surprisingly helpful for me to have context around the history and expectations of the marriage relationship. Having only experienced the perception of marriage by way of my own upbringing, I found the author's approach enlightening, thoughtful, and genuinely helpful. I benefitted from a series of 'epiphanies' in listening to the findings of fundamental research regarding common social challenges to lifelong marriage. Of biggest help to me was the realization of how much contemporary couples can place on our spouse for personal fulfillment. Good stuff. I would never have READ this entire book, as the research recitation was sometimes tedious, but it was an easy and interesting listen.

Informative, thoughtful and with a bit of humor

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This is definitely the best relationship book I've read. I highly recommend reading this book!

Best relationship book ever

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I highly recommend "The All or Nothing Marriage" for those who are either intellectually curious about the norms of marriage, the validities of such norms, the direction marriage is taking in our culture, where it's come from in the past, why things are so hard, or are otherwise questioning the fulfillment of their marriage. Very interesting book with lots to think about and practical advice of sorts.

Exactly the Cerebral Investigation I Wanted

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Very informative, loved that it is practical and gives examples about situations so that you can not only understand the concept, but learn how to recognize it!.

Good book to acquire perspective

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The love hacks were realistic and simple. The history of marriage and the expectations we have of a marriage was so interesting. I definitely plan to implement some of the ideas from this book into my own marriage

Realistically improve in your marriage

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The narrator was ok, but I did not like the fact that more than half of the book is spent on the history of marriage. I understand wanting to provide the readers with context, but most people that buy these books are looking for practical advice.

The only part I found useful were the very lat chapters

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