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Understanding the Borderline Mother

Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationship

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Understanding the Borderline Mother

By: Christine Ann Lawson
Narrated by: Heather Auden
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The first love in our lives is our mother. Recognizing her face, her voice, the meaning of her moods, and her facial expressions is crucial to survival. In this book, Dr. Christine Ann Lawson vividly describes how mothers who suffer from borderline personality disorder produce children who may flounder in life even as adults, futilely struggling to reach the safety of a parental harbor, unable to recognize that their borderline parent lacks a pier, or even a discernible shore.

Four character profiles describe different symptom clusters that include the waif mother, the hermit mother, the queen mother, and the witch. Children of borderlines are at risk for developing this complex and devastating personality disorder themselves. Dr. Lawson's recommendations for prevention include empathic understanding of the borderline mother and early intervention with her children to ground them in reality.

Addressing the adult children of borderlines and the therapists who work with them, Dr. Lawson shows how to care for the waif without rescuing her, to attend to the hermit without feeding her fear, to love the queen without becoming her subject, and to live with the witch without becoming her victim.

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The print version is equally valuable as a reference as this book is deep.

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The author accurately and comprehensively covers a very difficult subject

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So helpful

This book has been unbelievably helpful in helping me to understand how I was NOT mothered well and gives me language and knowledge to use when living a separate life and moving forward in adulthood after choosing to be estranged from my toxic family of origin

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Illuminating and validating

This was an amazing book! It shed light on a challenging and fraught topic with such poise. Truly a healing read.

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Great book and narrator!

This book really puts alot of my childhood and adult life into perspective, I've never been able to understand the evil that is my Mother. I will listen to it again because there is so much good information and I want to retain it all.

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Amazing

Beautifully written. Recommend to anyone who is struggling with BPD or has a family member who may be struggling with it. Thank you Christine Lawson.

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Finally I understand

Finally I understand my mother, how to handle myself around her, and know that there is hope for all of us in recovering our lives.

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My life nailed!

This book was validating for me. I wish I would have read it years ago. The behaviors and examples used hit so close to home for me. If you’re even the slightest bit suspicious that things were off in your childhood then this book will clarify things for you. Understanding your mothers behavior is the first step in healing and breaking free.

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So informative and helpful

My step-children have a borderline mother and this book was so helpful in deepening my and my husband’s understanding of what our children experience through their mother and how to help them escape the ravages of BPD themselves.

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Excellent book, pretty much all women should listen to this.

BPD effects are everyone in society at some degree. Therefore the more people that understand the better chances we have as a society to make a difference. Many people are completely unaware they even have BPD.

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Exactly what was needed!

I heard my and my clients' stories throughout this book. It was a professional recommendation and definitely a book worth reading. For anyone who has had (has) a troubled relationship with their mother, or to further understand others who do, it is well worth the read. Thank you so much for writing and sharing this knowledge and to those who shared their story throughout the book.

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