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  • Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder

  • How to Keep Out-of-Control Emotions from Destroying Your Relationship
  • By: Shari Y. Manning PhD
  • Narrated by: Angela Brazil
  • Length: 10 hrs and 53 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (430 ratings)

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Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder

By: Shari Y. Manning PhD
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People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be intensely caring, warm, smart, and funny, but their behavior often drives away those closest to them. If you're struggling in a tumultuous relationship with someone with BPD, this is the book for you. Dr. Shari Manning helps you understand why your spouse, family member, or friend has such out-of-control emotions and how to change the way you can respond. Learn to use simple yet powerful strategies that can defuse crises, establish better boundaries, and radically transform your relationship. Empathic, hopeful, and science based, this is the first book for family and friends grounded in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), the most effective treatment for BPD.

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"Research based, clearly written, and practical, this guide to a complex disorder is highly recommended." ( Library Journal)

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I think this will save my relationship

I think this will save my relationship. I am deeply in love with someone who suffers from some of the painful feelings and situations outlined in this book. Through the course of our relationship I have also found myself to have some of the same sufferings. This book will help us support each other and go into a positive support system rather than escalating disagreements and seriously wounding ourselves over and over again.

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There is Hope

I feel like this book was written for me and for my wife who suffers from BPD. It has reinforced for me that I will never give up on her or stop loving her because of this tragic personality disorder, even when she feels like giving up on the both of us. This is a must read.

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Good book but focused on extremes

Great insights into how BPD comes about and what it's like for someone to live with. Would have appreciated a chapter on dealing with splitting and how to manage the attack that comes with it.

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Crucial read if you're clueless about the disorder

this book helped explain so many things and change a lot of judgemental and negative feelings into understanding a persons actions.
Sounds like a text-to-speech robot is reading the book which fits a clinical-type book but is a little hard to listen to.

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Very insightful

I really appreciated this book. It gave examples on how to help, what to say (and not say!) and generally how to help a loved one with BPD. After listening to this book, I feel strengthened and hopeful that I can better understand and help my loved one.

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The most helpful information.

This book is very helpful. she offers information a parent, sibling, spouse, friend needs. There are books I would Not reccomend. Some are Not helpful. This one buy

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very informative

I found this very informative. My wife has BPD and that motivated me to get this book. Unfortunately it is a little to late as she has asked for a divorce. Wish I was more proactive in understanding what influence BPD has on her and how to work around it rather than arguing with her.

I would recommend this to EVERYONE as this can guide you with treating people differently for the benefit of both parties.

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very useful book

This book has helped me a lot. i am surely going to buy it in paper form to study it better. It helped me to understand my loved ones with BPD. It is nice to have a book that has a positive attitude towards people with this disorder.

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great help and tool lie within

chapter 4 is very helpful, loved it overall. I would recommend to anyone wanting to know more about BPD.

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good for family members

This author will provide you with a definition and understanding of borderline. more importantly how to cope with them and what to do.

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