
You're Not the Problem
The Impact of Narcissism and Emotional Abuse and How to Heal
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Helen Villiers
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Katie McKenna
About this listen
Two popular psychotherapists explore narcissism in family of origin, unpacking the fallout from being raised by narcissistic parents, and offering strategies for how to heal.
Many emotionally abusive behaviors from parent to child have become socially acceptable because of the way we repeat things our parents said and did, things passed down from generation to generation that persist today. You're Not the Problem enables us to recognize these behaviors and realize the profound impact they have had, and still have, and to see the patterns they form in our relationships with parents, partners and friends. It also shows us how to heal on a personal level but also on a societal level. The legacy and the damage caused by narcissistic and emotional abuse will carry on, perpetuated by trauma and repeating cycles, unless we learn to recognize and understand it, unless we as individuals and as a society learn how to challenge it and stop its vicious cycle of destruction—which is what this book sets out to do.
This book will explain and illustrate:
- How to recognize emotional abuse in family relationships: its language and behaviors
- The immediate and long term impact of these behaviors
- Strategies for healing
- How to avoid repeating these behaviors
Using client narratives and sample scripts, Villiers and McKenna offer a compassionate, sympathetic approach to looking at our familial patterns—and how we can break free from these toxic relationships and reclaim our lives.
©2024 Helen Villiers and Katie McKenna (P)2024 Hachette GoListeners also enjoyed...
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Transgender History, Second Edition
- The Roots of Today's Revolution
- By: Susan Stryker
- Narrated by: Emily Cauldwell
- Length: 7 hrs and 49 mins
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Covering American transgender history from the mid-20th century to today, Transgender History takes a chronological approach to the subject of transgender history, with each chapter covering major movements, writings, and events.
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something for everyone to learn
- By Nick G on 03-12-19
By: Susan Stryker
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Shorter
- Work Better, Smarter, and Less-Here's How
- By: Alex Soojung-Kim Pang
- Narrated by: Alex Soojung-Kim Pang
- Length: 7 hrs and 53 mins
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Shorter tells the story of entrepreneurs and leaders all over the world who have discovered how to shrink the workweek without cutting salaries or sacrificing productivity or revenues. They show that by reducing distractions, eliminating inefficiencies, and creating time for high-quality focus and collaboration, four-day workweeks can boost recruitment and retention, make leaders more thoughtful and companies more sustainable, and improve work-life balance.
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Good premise that should be 40% shorter
- By Nicholas on 09-23-21
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Getting to Zero
- How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships
- By: Jayson Gaddis
- Narrated by: Jayson Gaddis
- Length: 8 hrs and 19 mins
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Jayson Gaddis is a personal trainer for relationships and one of the world’s leading authorities on interpersonal conflict. For almost two decades, Gaddis has helped individuals, couples, and teams get to the bottom of their deepest conflicts. He helps people see the wisdom in conflict and how to get to zero - how “clean and clear” we feel with others when we have successfully worked through a disagreement. In Getting to Zero, Gaddis shows the listener how to stop running away from uncomfortable conversations and instead learn how to work through them.
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This book should be subtitled: How to manipulate your partner and hope they don’t notice
- By Erich on 08-21-22
By: Jayson Gaddis
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How We Change
- (And Ten Reasons Why We Don't)
- By: Ross Ellenhorn
- Narrated by: Nathan Agin
- Length: 11 hrs and 9 mins
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We all have something we want to change about ourselves. But whether it's quitting smoking, losing weight, or breaking some common bad habit or negative behavior pattern, we feel a sense of failure when we don’t succeed. This often sets off a cascade of negative feelings and discouragement, making it even harder to change. The voice in our head tells us: Why bother.
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Amazing! A must listen
- By greygreen on 03-26-21
By: Ross Ellenhorn
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Traumatized
- Identify, Understand, and Cope with PTSD and Emotional Stress
- By: Kati Morton LMFT
- Narrated by: Kati Morton LMFT
- Length: 7 hrs and 33 mins
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We hear the terms trauma and PTSD more and more. Yet many people still believe that trauma can only result from experiences that are particularly extreme. But trauma is an emotional response that can stem from a wide variety of upsetting experiences, leaving us feeling anxious, weighed down by negative emotions or memories, or feeling like we lack security.
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trauna
- By kathrin johnson on 12-07-22
By: Kati Morton LMFT
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Move the Body, Heal the Mind
- Overcome Anxiety, Depression, and Dementia and Improve Focus, Creativity, and Sleep
- By: Jennifer Heisz
- Narrated by: Jennifer Heisz
- Length: 6 hrs and 18 mins
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A noted neuroscientist reveals groundbreaking research on how fitness and exercise can combat mental health conditions such as anxiety, dementia, ADHD, and depression, and offers a plan for improving focus, creativity, and sleep.
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self indulgent
- By m on 06-20-22
By: Jennifer Heisz
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How to Get Unstuck
- Breaking Free from Barriers to Your Productivity
- By: Matt Perman
- Narrated by: Stu Gray
- Length: 7 hrs and 36 mins
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Matt Perman has spent his career helping people learn how to do work in a gospel-centered and effective way, combining theological substance with practical self-management. In How to Get Unstuck, he will walk you step-by-step through the core principles that free you to be more effective in everything you do. Drawing on the wisdom of the Bible and on the best of today's research, How to Get Unstuck shows believers and non-believers alike how to live productive, integrated lives and develops a poignant portrayal of true effectiveness.
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Don’t remember God being mentioned in sample
- By Matt Galster on 04-21-23
By: Matt Perman
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Brave Enough to Be Broken
- How to Embrace Your Pain and Discover Hope and Healing
- By: Toni Collier
- Narrated by: Toni Collier
- Length: 5 hrs and 26 mins
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Trauma, abuse, childhood wounds, and toxic relationships have broken us. But there is no shame in brokenness. In fact, it’s in our brokenness where the healing power of Jesus comes to find us. Brave Enough to Be Broken is a biblical road map you can use to heal from the pain, the shame, and the regrets that have tried to steal your joy, so you can rest in the unconditional love, healing, and hope of Jesus.
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GOD'S PERFECT TIMING & DIVINE ACCELERATION
- By Vietta Hutchinson on 04-15-23
By: Toni Collier
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Where Tyranny Begins
- The Justice Department, the FBI, and the War on Democracy
- By: David Rohde
- Narrated by: Eric Jason Martin
- Length: 9 hrs and 12 mins
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In Where Tyranny Begins, Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist David Rohde investigates the strategies Trump systematically used to turn the country's two most powerful law-enforcement agencies into his personal political weapons. Rohde also reveals how, during the Biden years, Justice Department non-partisan 1970s norms that Attorney General Merrick Garland reinforced inadvertently helped Trump, and could fail to deliver a trial and legal accountability by Election Day 2024.
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Review of why we fired trump
- By ludlow on 09-24-24
By: David Rohde
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No One Will Miss Her
- A Novel
- By: Kat Rosenfield
- Narrated by: Cassandra Campbell, Sophie Amoss, Chris Andrew Ciulla
- Length: 9 hrs and 48 mins
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On a beautiful October morning in rural Maine, a homicide investigator from the state police pulls into the hard-luck town of Copper Falls. The local junkyard is burning, and the town pariah Lizzie Oullette is dead - with her husband, Dwayne, nowhere to be found.
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Resourceful protagonist...
- By shelley on 10-15-21
By: Kat Rosenfield
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But It’s Your Family...
- Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath
- By: Dr. Sherrie Campbell
- Narrated by: Dr. Sherrie Campbell
- Length: 8 hrs and 25 mins
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But It’s Your Family is a remarkable account of what it means to cut ties to toxic family abuse and thrive in the aftermath. Loving someone doesn’t always mean having a relationship with them, just like forgiveness doesn’t always mean reconciliation. Reconciling, in many cases, only sets people up for more abuse. A significant part of healing comes with accepting that this is a part of life; there are some relationships that are so poisonous that they destroy one’s ability to be healthy and function best.
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My second purchase! Well done!
- By Attorney Shenandoah Titus - Author of THE WHISTLEBLOWER: Defeating Bullies, Harassers & Management Gang Retaliation (Amazon) on 08-27-20
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Growing Up as the Scapegoat to Narcissistic Parents
- A Guide to Healing
- By: Jay Reid
- Narrated by: Todd Lewandowski
- Length: 8 hrs and 15 mins
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This book is for those who suffered as the scapegoat child to a narcissistic parent. The scapegoat child is emotionally deprived, devalued and trapped by the parent. The child comes to believe they are defective and undeserving. These beliefs can plague the individual into adulthood.
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Eye opening
- By Belle on 07-24-23
By: Jay Reid
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- Isabelle L.
- 07-17-24
Validating and Helpful
Gives clear, relatable examples while explaining behaviors and providing constructive means for growth with enough information to provide a thorough understanding — without being too clinical to follow. I felt like I got a lot from this book.
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- Tracy S
- 04-26-24
Great and helpful
Really liked this- gave examples, exercises, and well put together. Great help for anyone in this situation
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- Anna B
- 04-12-24
Helps those of us with Narc family
Love this book and the authors. Helping the world heal. As a daughter of a NM this has helped so much.
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- david irace
- 04-12-24
amazing work
this book is a wonderful guide to understand narcissist behavior and to heal from the wounds it can cause
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- Amazon Customer
- 08-28-24
Finally, healing
I’ve listened to a lot of books about my abusive childhood. This is the first one that actually helped me begin healing by validating the struggles with how to fu@& do it. The exercises in ch 10 are bookmarked!! The describe myself activity in particular broke down a wall for me. I am not what my family describes me as and the people I love being around see me for who I truly am. Thank you, authors for giving that gift to me. My self hatred was not my fault, their voices were just too loud and hateful. I was never the problem. 🥹
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- Audible Listener
- 04-11-24
Highly reccomend
There is a good deal of information in this book, and it's presented in a way that is both compassionate and easy to understand. I felt encouraged, validated, challenged even called out in some instances. Great experience, healthy learns, and cause for reflection.
I'm definitely going to listen to this again.
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- Amazon Customer
- 05-17-24
Life changing
Excellent resource for understanding and healing narcissistic abuse. Recommend for the children and partners of individuals with NPD.
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- Kyle Crist
- 05-04-24
Renewal through reflection
This book is incredibly helpful. It is very challenging to face trauma and open up our armor, but it is well worth it. If you are on the fence, perhaps because you don't think you experience was THAT bad, get the book.
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- Amanda Belec
- 08-13-24
WOW absolutely WOW
It’s going to hurt but you will have your eyes opened to the world you missed around you.
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- Amazon Customer
- 08-16-24
Life changing
So much information to absorb in a short amount of time. So I will be reading this again, at least one more time. This book is life changing. I would suggest anyone that has had to love with a narcissistic family member or spouse to dive in!
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