
Come Together
The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections
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Emily Nagoski PhD
From the New York Times bestselling author of Come as You Are and co-author of Burnout comes an illuminating exploration of how to maintain a happy sex life in a long-term relationship.
“Emily Nagoski is a national treasure—helping us all understand how to finally build true, joyful, confident sex lives.”—Glennon Doyle, author of Untamed
In Come as You Are, Emily Nagoski, PhD, revolutionized the way we think about women’s sexuality. Now, in Come Together, Nagoski takes on a fundamentally misunderstood subject: sex in long-term relationships.
Most of us struggle at some point to maintain a sexual connection with our partner/s or spouse. And many of us are given not-very-good advice on what to do about it. In this book, Nagoski dispels the myths we’ve been taught about sex—for instance, the belief that sexual satisfaction and desire are highest at the beginning of a relationship and that they inevitably decline the longer that relationship lasts. Nagoski assures us that’s not true.
So, what is true? Come Together isn’t about how much we want sex, or how often we’re having it; it’s about whether we like the sex we’re having. Nagoski breaks down the obstacles that impede us from enjoying sex—from stress and body image to relationship difficulties and gendered beliefs about how sex “should” be—and presents the best ways to overcome them. You’ll learn:
• that “spontaneous desire” is not the kind of desire to strive for if you want to have great sex for decades
• vocabulary for talking with partners about ways to get in “the mood” and how to not take it personally when “the mood” is nowhere to be found
• how to understand your own and your partner’s “emotional floorplan,” so that you have a blueprint for how to get to a sexy state of mind
Written with scientific rigor, humor, and compassion, Nagoski shows us what great sex can look like, how to create it in our own lives, and what to do when struggles arise.
* This audiobook edition includes a downloadable PDF of visuals and resources from the book.
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“Come Together is wise and deeply comforting. Once again, Emily Nagoski is dismantling myths about sexuality and giving everyone permission to discover what is already true and love what they discover.”—Angela Chen, author of Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex
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Love how inclusive the book is as well.
Everyone should read this.
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I also look forward to reading her co-authored book soon.
Outstanding relationship book
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Best Sex Educator
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Great read
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Great life advice, not just sex advice!
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Amazing presentation of such a helpful roadmap
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she writes with some cultural assumptions that I'm curious if she addresses in her other books that all look up.
Definitely be careful where you listen to this as she gets very detailed and now days a lot of Bluetooths just auto play. Not me getting out of my car in front of a guy during a very detailed spicy section 😅😅😅
Why didn't we all learn this at 16???
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However the author simplifies the dynamic by arguing that the challenges couples face in their sexual relationship is driven by men’s weaknesses, lack of empathy, and needs. She provides examples of partnerships in different contexts, and the heterosexual couple she models is a man demanding sex from his unfortunate wife, who is shouldered with all the domestic duties. Her recommendation is to just stop having sex. Her advice to men is to get over your pervasive toxic masculinity. Her advice to women is to recognize that it’s all the men’s fault- don’t think your partner is any worse because they are all that way.
So go into the book recognizing the viewpoint of the author.
It’s all men’s’ fault
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Very Informative and an Easy Listen
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Soul and Body Freeing
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