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  • Come Together

  • The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections
  • By: Emily Nagoski PhD
  • Narrated by: Emily Nagoski PhD
  • Length: 12 hrs and 2 mins
  • 4.6 out of 5 stars (78 ratings)

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Come Together

By: Emily Nagoski PhD
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From the New York Times bestselling author of Come as You Are and co-author of Burnout comes an illuminating exploration of how to maintain a happy sex life in a long-term relationship.

“Emily Nagoski is a national treasure—helping us all understand how to finally build true, joyful, confident sex lives.”—Glennon Doyle, author of Untamed

In Come as You Are, Emily Nagoski, PhD, revolutionized the way we think about women’s sexuality. Now, in Come Together, Nagoski takes on a fundamentally misunderstood subject: sex in long-term relationships.

Most of us struggle at some point to maintain a sexual connection with our partner/s or spouse. And many of us are given not-very-good advice on what to do about it. In this book, Nagoski dispels the myths we’ve been taught about sex—for instance, the belief that sexual satisfaction and desire are highest at the beginning of a relationship and that they inevitably decline the longer that relationship lasts. Nagoski assures us that’s not true.

So, what is true? Come Together isn’t about how much we want sex, or how often we’re having it; it’s about whether we like the sex we’re having. Nagoski breaks down the obstacles that impede us from enjoying sex—from stress and body image to relationship difficulties and gendered beliefs about how sex “should” be—and presents the best ways to overcome them. You’ll learn:

• that “spontaneous desire” is not the kind of desire to strive for if you want to have great sex for decades

• vocabulary for talking with partners about ways to get in “the mood” and how to not take it personally when “the mood” is nowhere to be found

• how to understand your own and your partner’s “emotional floorplan,” so that you have a blueprint for how to get to a sexy state of mind

Written with scientific rigor, humor, and compassion, Nagoski shows us what great sex can look like, how to create it in our own lives, and what to do when struggles arise.

* This audiobook edition includes a downloadable PDF of visuals and resources from the book.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2024 Emily Nagoski, PhD (P)2024 Random House Audio
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Come Together is wise and deeply comforting. Once again, Emily Nagoski is dismantling myths about sexuality and giving everyone permission to discover what is already true and love what they discover.”—Angela Chen, author of Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex

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Amazing presentation of such a helpful roadmap

Emily is a great narrator and you can hear her underline certain concepts so they really pop out. After listening to this, now I’m buying the hardback so I can underline it myself. Astounding compilation of work. Well done.

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Everyone should read this.

This is a must-read for everyone. Dr. Emily is extremely articulate and delivers complex and fraught topics in a way that is approachable, compassionate and humorous. I
Love how inclusive the book is as well.

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Outstanding relationship book

I liked how utterly surprised I was that this book was only about sex about 50%. All of it was about our relationship to ourselves, partners and society. I adored the author reading her own book. I might turn right around and relisten. I did buy a paper copy too because I wanted access to some of the more technical.descriptions, like the Emotional Floorplan and the Handbooks, Boy and Girl.
I also look forward to reading her co-authored book soon.

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Great life advice, not just sex advice!

Like all of Emily's books, this book offers great info on living human life, in a human body, in relation to other humans. The sex info is wonderful (pleasure is the measure!) but the chapters on emotional understanding, gender, living in changing bodies make the book invaluable (and applicable to ALL areas of life).

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Great read

A thoughtful reflection on gender dynamics and their influence in the bedroom. 10/10 would recommend 🙂

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Very Informative and an Easy Listen

Nice balance of research and explanation. It was easy to listen to, and the information is so well presented. It gives me a lot to think about and consider for myself. I appreciate the inclusivity.

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Soul and Body Freeing

What an incredible journey this book takes you on. The science is insightful and well researched. my favorite part about all of her books is that she's her authentic self in regards to own experiences no bullishit fooder in order to fill her books. she includes other resources such as other great authors as well.

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Remarkable!

Absolutely valuable life changing advice. My connection with my woman has become more enjoyable and better se.ually.

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Good but

Definitely insightful but I feel like could have been much much shorter than it is.

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All Nagoski’s works are fantastic!

Another wonderful book by Emily Nagoski. Very well researched and science based but presented in an easy to understand way. Highly recommended

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