
What Makes Love Last?
How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal
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Dr. John Gottman, the country's preeminent researcher on marriage, is famous for his Love Lab at the University of Washington in Seattle where he deciphers the mysteries of human relationships through scientific research. His 35 years of exploration have earned him numerous awards, including from the National Institute of Mental Health, the American Psychological Association, and the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Now, Dr. Gottman offers surprising findings and advice on the characteristic that is at the heart of all relationships: trust. Dr. Gottman has developed a formula that precisely calculates any couple's loyalty level. The results determine a relationship's likely future, including the potential for one or both partners to stray.
What Makes Love Last? shows couples how to bolster their trust level and avoid what Dr. Gottman calls the "Roach Motel for Lovers". He describes how the outcome of "sliding door moments", small pivotal points between a couple, can lead either to more emotional connection or to discontent. He suggests a new approach to handling adultery and reveals the varied and unexpected nonsexual ways that couples often betray each other.
What Makes Love Last? guides couples through an empirically tested, trust-building program that will help them repair and maintain any long-term, intimate romantic relationship.
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- By: John Gottman PhD, Julie Schwartz Gottman PhD
- Narrated by: James Patrick Cronin, Kiiri Sandy
- Length: 4 hrs and 27 mins
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What makes love last? Why does one couple stay together forever, while another falls apart? And most importantly, is there a scientific formula for love? Drs. John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman are the world’s leading relationship scientists. For the past forty years, they have been studying love. They’ve gathered data on over three thousand couples, looking at everything from their body language to the way they converse to their stress hormone levels. Their goal: to identify the building blocks of love.
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Helpful for neurotypicals
- By Audrey4791 on 01-19-23
By: John Gottman PhD, and others
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The Man's Guide to Women
- Scientifically Proven Secrets from the "Love Lab" About What Women Really Want
- By: John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Douglas Abrams, and others
- Narrated by: Eric Michael Summerer
- Length: 5 hrs and 28 mins
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The Man's Guide to Women offers the science-based answers to the question: What do women really want in men? The book explains the hallmarks of manhood that most women find attractive and helps men hone those skills to be the men women desire.
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Great advice from the Love Lab again
- By Steve C on 02-10-16
By: John Gottman, and others
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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
- A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert, Revised and Updated
- By: John M. Gottman PhD, Nan Silver
- Narrated by: Eric Michael Summerer
- Length: 10 hrs and 17 mins
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Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops, have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages.
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not a good audiobook
- By jynlyn on 09-02-20
By: John M. Gottman PhD, and others
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The New Marriage Clinic
- A Scientifically Based Marital Therapy Updated
- By: John M. Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman
- Narrated by: Jon Vertullo
- Length: 19 hrs and 9 mins
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The highly influential book The Marriage Clinic presented a complete marital therapy program based on John Gottman's much-heralded research on marital success and failure. Since then, Dr. Gottman has collaborated with his wife, clinical psychologist Dr. Julie Gottman, to conduct their well-known Love Lab studies, allowing the pair to design a highly successful couples' workshop and develop their Sound Relationship House theory.
By: John M. Gottman, and others
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10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy
- By: Julie Schwartz Gottman PhD, John M. M. Gottman PhD, Daniel J. Siegel - foreword
- Narrated by: Kitty Hendrix
- Length: 7 hrs and 11 mins
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In 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy, two of the world's leading couple researchers and therapists give listeners an inside tour of what goes on inside the consulting rooms of their practice. They have been doing couples work for decades and still find it challenging and full of learning experiences. This book distills the knowledge they've gained over their years of practice into 10 principles at the core of good couples work. Each principle is illustrated with a clinically compiled case plus personal side-notes and storytelling.
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Excellent book!
- By Amazon Customer on 01-22-19
By: Julie Schwartz Gottman PhD, and others
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And Baby Makes Three
- The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives
- By: John M. Gottman PhD, Julie Schwartz Gottman PhD
- Narrated by: Randye Kaye
- Length: 7 hrs and 39 mins
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Having a baby is a joyous experience, but even the best relationships are strained during the transition from duo to trio. Lack of sleep, never-ending housework, and new fiscal concerns often lead to conflict, disappointment, and hurt feelings. In And Baby Makes Three, Love Lab™ experts John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman teach couples the skills from their successful workshops, so partners can avoid the pitfalls of parenthood.
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More couple's therapy than adapting with new baby.
- By Bridget on 08-19-17
By: John M. Gottman PhD, and others
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Fight Right
- How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection
- By: Julie Schwartz Gottman PhD, John Gottman PhD
- Narrated by: Roy Worley, Kiiri Sandy
- Length: 10 hrs and 21 mins
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How we fight predicts the future of our relationships. Most of us blunder into conflict without knowing what we are really fighting about and then quickly become overwhelmed by physiological responses we can’t control and emotions we don’t anticipate. The truth is the happiest and most successful couples fight—all the time. Conflict is human, and necessary.
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Excellent summary of their research
- By Robert B. Davis on 02-28-24
By: Julie Schwartz Gottman PhD, and others
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Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child
- The Heart of Parenting
- By: John Gottman PhD
- Narrated by: Roy Worley
- Length: 8 hrs and 4 mins
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Based on 20 years of research at the University of Washington studying parent-child interactions, award-winning research psychologist John Gottman and his team have developed Emotion Coaching - a technique parents can use to teach their children self-awareness and self-control and to foster good emotional development. This proven technique has demonstrated a positive effect on children's physical health, academic achievement, and emotional well-being.
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My parenting philosophy, in writing!
- By Dave on 03-03-21
By: John Gottman PhD
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Hold Me Tight
- Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
- By: Dr. Sue Johnson EdD
- Narrated by: Helen Keeley
- Length: 8 hrs and 47 mins
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Heralded by the New York Times and Time as the couples therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment bond. This idea, once controversial, is now supported by science, and has become widely popular among therapists around the world. In Hold Me Tight, Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy to the general public for the first time. Johnson teaches that the way to save and enrich a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond.
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No PDFs
- By Michelle Johann on 09-11-20
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Not 'Just Friends'
- Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity
- By: Shirley P. Glass Ph.D., Jean Coppock Staeheli
- Narrated by: Laural Merlington
- Length: 15 hrs and 10 mins
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Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.
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WORST to Read/Listen to if you are well past D Day
- By K on 02-04-17
By: Shirley P. Glass Ph.D., and others
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Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married
- By: Gary Chapman
- Narrated by: Chris Fabry
- Length: 3 hrs and 44 mins
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Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married was written to help you realize your goal of marital happiness. But don’t just listen to it - experience it. Grapple with the practical tips and ideas discussed, honestly share your thoughts and feelings, respect each other’s opinions, and find workable solutions to your differences. The more you do so, says Chapman, the more you will be prepared for marriage.
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Useful and Practical!
- By Charles on 12-11-13
By: Gary Chapman
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31 Days to Great Sex
- Love. Friendship. Fun.
- By: Sheila Wray Gregoire
- Narrated by: Sheila Wray Gregoire
- Length: 4 hrs and 29 mins
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Whether you are engaged and afraid you won't be able to light the spark, are newlyweds who haven't started off well, or have been married five, 10, 25 years, or more and you'd like to recapture the spark you once had, this audiobook is for you! The challenges aim to spice up the bedroom while guiding you through all three levels of sexual intimacy. As you go through these challenges with lots of laughter and enjoyment, sex will stop being a source of tension and become something fun that brings you together, just the way God intended.
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didn't need a lesson in theology
- By Not Usually Picky on 08-08-20
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- Aaron
- 03-20-14
The Key
What made the experience of listening to What Makes Love Last? the most enjoyable?
The insights - practical, profound - are marriage changing and life changing.
What did you like best about this story?
I immediately put to work the guidance on myself and with communicating with my wife, and there is a cloud of tension already lifting. We have hot spot topics that we typically avoid, to avoid arguing. But this book gave me a guide and the courage to open up that conversation, it happened lovingly and respectfully. It's a change I've been wishing for.
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If you want to create more joy and connection in your marriage, regardless of being stuck in negative discontent or happy and content this book with bring you up. I give it my highest recommendation.
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- Kai Ellis
- 04-27-13
Read by Quagmire from Family Guy...
What made the experience of listening to What Makes Love Last? the most enjoyable?
Gottman is a seasoned expert on the subject of successful relationships.
What was one of the most memorable moments of What Makes Love Last??
The samples of dialogue between the therapist and various couples helped illustrate principles to me.
Did Peter Berkrot do a good job differentiating all the characters? How?
No :( His tone and inflection were the same for all samples of dialogue - but that's not really a big deal to me. What continually took me out of the book was how much he sounds like Quagmire from Family Guy.
If you were to make a film of this book, what would be the tag line be?
Want to know if you're going to get divorced? The answers are inside...
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- Steve
- 03-19-18
Great info
I liked this book a lot. I haven’t implemented any of it yet, but it aligns with other things I have read and incorporated into my relationship. The narrators voice trails off a lot, and made it hard to hear in the car sometimes. It was kind of irritating. Great book anyway.
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- Dallas H.
- 06-22-17
Best Relationship Advice
Gottman hits it right on the head every time. sound relationship advice for every couple
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- David
- 02-21-14
Very practical
Really interesting. I appreciate his research based approach. I particularly enjoyed learning more relationship recovery techniques. I also saw areas where I need to be more careful with my relationships. This was a very readable book. Of this genre, he lacks the underlying grand theory that you find in Harville Hendrix and others, but this is a much more practical approach.
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- Joshua
- 10-23-16
Narrator is annoying but good book
I liked the info and examples, but the dialogue acted out by the narrator was super annoying.
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- Katrina
- 06-28-18
Wish I had read this long ago
very helpful, sage advice. Will listen again. Worth your while will share with others I care about
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- Amazon Customer
- 05-05-22
highly recommend
This book just spells it all out so clearly. I appreciate Dr Gottmans' wisdom and scientific study that provides answers to the ins and outs of a good marriage, and exposes what an unhealthy one is.
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- Mr. Smith
- 09-19-13
Hand it out to every engaged couple
What did you love best about What Makes Love Last??
This book is amazing - if you ever asked the question. This is the answer. Well written, well read - worth the buy. This book bundled with Hold me tight is all you need.
If you are single i recommend 'attached' however this is also a great book to have. '
What was one of the most memorable moments of What Makes Love Last??
Know when you are 'flooding' during an argument, and understand the horsemen.
What about Peter Berkrot’s performance did you like?
Enjoyable
Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?
The whole book has a lot of useful info.
Any additional comments?
Has some great info on affairs - I would also recommend 'Just Friends'
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- Terry B
- 01-19-17
A Roadmap to Long Term Happiness
This book may be what saved my marriage; my very life. In it I found a short yet profound scientific approach to understanding love and long-term marriage success, regardless of circumstance or religious creed. Upon reading it I became overwhelmed with epiphanies and experienced a cascade of internal change which, while aimed at improving the relationship with my incredible spouse, has benefited me well beyond the proverbial walls of my marriage. I would highly recommend this to anyone willing to take an honest, measured and critical look at their life and themselves. Reading it with a partner will only amplify it's benefits and I look forward to putting in the work with the aids that come with the hard copy version.
Thank you Dr's Julie and John Gottman and all your staff. Your work is meaningful and greatly appreciated.
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