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A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication
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Narrated by:
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Oren Jay Sofer
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Mark Bramhall
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Find your voice, speak your truth, listen deeply - a guide to more meaningful and mindful conversations.
We spend so much of our lives talking to each other, but how much are we simply running on automatic - relying on old habits and hoping for the best? Are we able to truly hear others and speak our mind in a clear and kind way, without needing to get defensive or go on the attack?
In this groundbreaking synthesis of mindfulness, somatics, and nonviolent communication, Oren Jay Sofer offers simple yet powerful practices to develop healthy, effective, and satisfying ways of communicating.
The techniques in Say What You Mean will help you to:
- Feel confident during conversation
- Stay focused on what really matters in an interaction
- Listen for the authentic concerns behind what others say
- Reduce anxiety before and during difficult conversations
- Find nourishment in day-to-day interactions
Featured Article: Best Audiobooks on Communication
Communication is essential to getting along and getting ahead—but for most of us, it's a skill we're expected to simply pick up as we move through life. Not surprisingly, there might be a lot you don't know about communicating with others. Luckily, communication is a widely studied and well-researched field. Many experts and authors have gathered their best advice and techniques to help you improve your communication skills and, by extension, improve your relationships. Here are some of the best audiobooks on communication to help you get better at listening, speaking, and connecting.
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communication skills
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I found the material meaningful and relevant to me, but it is challenging work. I could not drink this book down in one sitting - it’s actually kind of a lot! But I have enjoyed taking the actionable advice.
Challenging - but worth it.
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Favorite book
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Life Changing!
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Also, the bells were a very nice addition. I have adhd, so it helped me return to center and actively listen.
Thank you!!! :D
Helpful for breaking generational patterns
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Life changing resource
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